When do u think is a good time to become sexually active?, At what age did u? details?

Question

Honest question, also plz stop telling me im going 2 hell!

Karly if gays are so bad Y are u in this section loser!

Im gay i cant get married!

Answer 1

Now now now, my Son, calm down and take a deep breath. There. Better? I know the Idiots from Religion and Spirituality who lurk in this section can become very annoying.
I think becoming sexually active is a very big step and whether one is "ready" for it varies from person to person. I wasn't ready until I was in my late teens (although I had been abused in my very young years). I then met my Best Beloved, fell in love and have been happily "married" for the last 25 years. We're lesbians and we consider ourselves a couple. How many heterosexual couples can actually say they've been together, monogamously, for 25 years? Okay, I'm sorry, I was ranting there.
You are NOT going to Hell. That is the worst thing a supposedly "loving" Christian could do to another living being -- to assign them to eternal and non-ending torment. God loves. That's what God does. Man hates. You and I and the rest of the souls here are going to go Home to wherever Home is. We're not going to Hell. let the Christians keep it. Neither you nor I want it and nor do we need it.

Answer 2

It's not an age, it's your outlook, your maturity, your understanding of the consequences. I was also 19 the first time, but it was with a guy - I didn't know any better yet. LOL For myself, I don't think I was old enough. But kids mature earlier now, they know too much too soon. Don't rush into it; the first time is supposed to be special. You can only lose your virginity once. So pick sombody special. I wish my first time had been with a woman. Darn. I certainly wouldn't have wasted those years with him.
KarlyP - no one wants to her your cr*p here so take a flying leap

Answer 3

It really depends. Mine was last year, at age 19. I felt like I had waited long enough, and knowing there weren't any eligible bachelors in the rural southern hick town I live in, I took a little trip to a big city and after one night of clubbing, I got laid. It was all rather simple, really. :)

I recommend waiting until you feel it's right for you. Do you understand the consequences of sex? Do you know about STDs and other possibly harmful consequences of sex? (I know most of us took a health class in high school, but who pays attention in school? lol) If you feel okay about going for it now, I personally don't see a problem with it as long as you're smart. But keep in mind, sex cannot replace love -- something that I know I was looking for (and didn't find) on the night I lost my virginity.

Answer 4

While you don't want the negative baggage around sex, you do want to consider that it is a powerful force. So ... a good age is when you have the followin: an understanding of safe-sex practices; an understanding of the health and emotional ramifications for both yourself and others. If you have all that and can have fun while also not doing something to hurt yourself and others then you're good to go. You want to have fun but you also really want to make sure that you don't throw caution to the wind and risk disease and, in the case of hetero sex, pregnancy.

Answer 5

Lol @ the going to hell part. I think that the best time to become sexually active is when you have found someone that you have genine feelings for...that of course isn't what I did....but at 17 you make a lot of mistakes....but if you wait until you are in love I think it means a lot more.

Answer 6

I think there is not a certain age. I think it has to do with how mature you are, some people at 20 they're still not ready to have sex. Honestly, i think if you are asking for advise you're not really sure if you're ready to be intimate with someone. Only you would when you're ready to become sexually active. If you do decide to become sexually active just be safe!

Answer 7

I was 19. I thought I waited long enough, but then I met my husband, and he was still waiting for the perfect person, and it made me wish I would have waited too.

I know you can't get married, but you could join into a civil union with your partner. But, you just need to do what feels best for you. When it's the right time, you'll know.

Answer 8

Once you already get married then on the wedding night.
I hate to see that when girls like 15 years having sex, thats a bad thing but in INDIA girls are married like 12 years and less and have lots of children b4 15.

maybe it depends on your tradition

Answer 9

I was 13 when I started to explore with a friend, we continued to have sex until we were 18 and I left to go in the Air Force.

Answer 10

I'd say 16 is a good start. I started rather young but I wouldn't recommend it :P So 16 or older i sgood. Or waiting until ur "married" is also good. Relationships actually hold together better with virgin and virgin.