MY husband wants me to spank him not playfully but dominatingly. I am not sure how I feel about donig this. I have tried but I don't want to hurt him. He says I'm not and that love is painful. We have only fought mildly in our relationship and very scarcely. He says it's like an absolution of sin. He said that he loves me very much. Because we hardly ever fight and that he does not desire to fight with me, he feels that by me doing this to him he will "feel forgiven for letting me down in life" . I told him that he does not nor has not ever let me down. He explained that we are all let down by something or another, and that he wasn't nor was I the exact person we thought we would love, that being said, we are all let down. He feels that this absolution will remove a huge weight ,that he carries with him at all times,to be the best person he can be in life for me . Should I do this for him ? What do I do about not wanting to hurt him? Anyone with experience in this matter please respond
2006-08-08 12:35:12 · 7 answers · asked by jesse'sgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what does spanking him have anything to do with being let down...his reasonings are pretty lame...
he just wants to be spanked...nothing wrong with that...
2006-08-08 12:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by your mom. 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is what is called a "submissive" He wants you to be "TOP" or "DOMME" It seems he's interested in BDSM.
Those whom like spankings often feel pain different than most people. To him it feels good. Sometimes people's pain perception is different. If you're hurting him, he'll let you know.
He's enjoying this or he wouldn't be asking you to do it.
http://www.collarme.com is a free website that has forums, as well as a few other options. I would suggest you sign up for it and go to the forums there. Ask whatever you need to. People there are great and can help you better understand what your husband is asking you to do. And if you choose to play the roll of Dominant, they can give you pointers on where to start.
You don't have to talk about it outside of the bedroom. Just enjoy it, explore, and don't worry about what others thinks. You might find out you like it, you might find out you don't.
Good luck.
2006-08-08 20:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Voice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as in every sexual act it requires both adults to consent and agree on this type of act, if you feel uncofortable tell him you dont want in on this, but if you are curious then get info on the subject, read magazines and books and kick the S*** out of him.
2006-08-08 19:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by pay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beat the living sh*t out of him for all the other women in the world who would love to do it.
2006-08-08 20:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Nobody Special 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hit him with a board that has a nail in it
he wont ask you again
2006-08-08 19:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy some books, Amazon.com has some good ones. And learn to do it right if you are interested.
2006-08-08 19:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by Alaska 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is your husband crazey or what.or maybe he wants u to teach him a lesson, i would try,but if i aint happy doing it, i wouldnt do it.
2006-08-08 19:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋