Is it wrong to think about what being with an ex would be like? I love my husband and definately made the right choice, wouldn't be without him it would rip me apart but occasionally I find myself thinking about ex relationships I had in the past. Is this wrong and how do you stop?
2006-08-08 12:26:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is normal to think about people you once loved. You are fortunate to have such good memories of past loves. Don't worry about this. Everyone takes a ride down memory lane from time to time.
2006-08-08 12:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all do it at some stage.The fact that you are not with any of the EXs should tell you that you have made the right choice.We all like to think how things would have turned up,but the reality is now. Its here and thats what matters.
So don't beat yourself up.We are all human and like to remember the good times of the past.But think of this.... If it was so good, how come all those relationships are EX?
As long as you do not try and get back with the exs you will be fine.Also try not to obsess about the past. Everytime you find yourself thinking of the past try to bring yourself to today, to now and see the positive side of your life.
good luck.
2006-08-08 19:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most women can't stop and, yes, most women do sooner or later have at least an encounter/ fling with such exs, mostly at their initiative, if the ex(s) are around. I have done it twice. My M fiance says it happened to him 4 times, and in each instance they were fully committed to their marriages.
Women, when all is said and done, want variety, even if maritally commited.
I advise you get it out of your system by doing it. If your husband can handle it be honest with him; if not do it secretly but only after full discussion with your ex about your needs but
within firm limits for the get-together(s). In the latter case also confide to a close girlfriend.
2006-08-08 19:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the memories and experiences you have had in the past have made you the person you are today, and every person in your past has also contributed, for good or bad, thinking about people you have known is not a bad thing, just remember why they are ex's, and not your husband!
You know you have made the right choice, so stop worrying, at least you found out what you did'nt want!
2006-08-08 20:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by magpyre 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thinking about it and craving it is two different things. You will always think about things that happened in the past. You are focused on ex's but if you would just think a minute I bet there are tons of other things you think about that happed in the past. Now if you are wanting to go back to the past or wishing you were with these ex's then I'd say you have a problem that sooner or later will affect your marriage.
2006-08-08 19:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by funnyface53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal i guess, but I cannot help feeling that by looking to the past you are yearning for something in the present. Instead of looking at wot you once had, look to wot u have now....it is not fullfilling because there is someone or something in your past which makes u doubt now. Saying that ,the grass sometimes always looks greener...but u left that to be where u r now.
2006-08-08 19:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only natural to sometimes think about the past and what it would be like with someone else after all you are only human, just make sure it stays that way as just a thought.
2006-08-11 17:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by megajen2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant forget the past but the past has gone,
the next day is the first day of the rest of your life if you cant be with the one you love love the one your with.
from an old song but it works .
this day is the first day of the rest of your life move on the time is right .
all the best..
2006-08-08 19:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by moondust 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it does not have to be normal. Just pray about it that God will help you get your mind on your loved one and not on your ex.
2006-08-08 19:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Alyssa s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can stop after all they are your memories, and if it dosen't change the way you feel about your husband just enjoy them,,,,,,, no it's not wrong x
2006-08-11 04:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by P-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋