What would I do about someone in my workplace who is putting me down?

Question

The person may ask me why I don't do something else and could tell me I could do something better,etc. Isn't this TOTALLY inappropriate for the work environment?

Answer 1

Beat the s~~~ out of em, or start causing hell for them, but sometimes when more than 1 b~~~~ joins in the trouble making for you it turns out to be a no win situation.Personal experience when you confront them, they deny and it's you against the b~~~~ group... so you need to go to ur boss and inform him/her of the situation and let them handle it, instead of trying to take care of the situation yourself because you will end up looking like the bad guy/girl guarenteed!!! If u really like ur job don't make the same mistake I did by resigning, but I had enough of the b~~~ drama and mind games and decided I would leave all the b~~~~~es to thier daily drama, and I'm sure they have thier next target lined up!

Answer 2

Only you can know whether the person's comments or suggestions have any validity. Often it is the manner in which a critical person delivers such remarks (more than the substance) that may feel abrasive or controlling, or rub us the wrong way. Whatever you do, try to keep the high ground and don't allow them to bait you and get an emotional reaction. If you feel the comments have no merit, you could simply acknowledge them by saying, "Thanks, I'll take that into consideration,"or even, "Thanks, you may have a point." If you really feel they are attacking you, you might say, "You have every right to share your thoughts, however I will not be spoken to in that tone. I will be happy to listen to you if you can speak to me in a civil manner." If they are way out of line to the point of abusiveness, you may need to raise the issue with a supervisor, but try to stay positive and constructive -- focus on solutions, not attacking the "problem" person. Just some thoughts -- good luck!

Answer 3

Sounds like this is inappropriate behavior.
It is important that you handle the situation very professionally.
If you feel comfortable with it you could politely ask that person to not interfere with your work.

Maybe you have already tried that and it did not have any effect. Or you do not feel comfortable with that approach.

You should talk to you boss but also to HR. HR should be involved in any case.

They have protocols to handle such a situation properly.

Good luck!

Answer 4

not enough details. Sorry.
If this was your boss asking why you don't do something else (ie, do something differently?), or telling you you could do something better, you're getting straight up job performance feedback, and accept such criticism as a constructive means of improving your work. If it's one of your co-workers asking this, they may be being mean, but they may be doing the same thing--trying to get you to shape up before the boss does.

If you are confident that you are doing your best work at a job you are qualified for, and this person is telling you this, you need to ask him/her why he/she's constantly criticizing you, and request that he/she stop, since you don't do it to him/her.

Answer 5

Yes, it is, in fact, very unappropriate. The only thing you can do is go to your supervisor and let them know that this is going on. If this is your supervisor, then, I would say that they DO have the right to tell you this, though. If it is your supervisor, then, they are probably just trying to set something off in you, trying to make you want to do better. Sometimes, they will use that method; they will thin it will make you mad, thus, making you strive to do better. If it's just another employee, like I said, tell your supervisor, or tell them, "hey, last time I checked, you weren't my boss, so until you are, chill with the put downs and unwanted criticism."

Answer 6

When I first started teaching, I had a colleague who, for some reason, hated me. Right from the start. He tried everything he could to get me to quit, including yelling at me in front of my students, and yelling at me when I was on the phone with parents. He frequently tried to convince me that I would be better off working in industry. To this day, I do not know what his problem was, but he made my life a living hell for years. He finally retired. It has been suggested that he was jealous of me, that he viewed me, the young and enthusiastic teacher, as a threat to his dominance over the department.

Answer 7

People who act like that sometimes feel threatened by those they work with who they perceive to be out striping them. misery loves company. take a good look at how this person treats others in the work place if it appears that they are doing that to others who excel than your seeing there weak side. do your job and don't sweat there fallacies/short comings

Answer 8

Sic Human relations on them, as this can be construed as a hostile work environment

Answer 9

confront them privately asking if you've done anything wrong to them, then if they say yes either acknowledge and apologize or deny and disappear, if you haven't done anything wrong, ask the hard question of why are you treating me this way? Tell them how you would like to be treated.

Answer 10

go to your supervisor or Human resources. this is a form of harrasment which falls under the same laws as sexual harrassment