A really serious question, so please answer me nicely...?

Question

I am a bisexual-bi-curious, I should say-female teenager. I've never been with a guy or a girl (I've never kissed or gone further with a guy or girl), but I'm pretty sure I could go either way. Should I tell my parents/family/friends? I mean, I'm pretty sure I'm a bi, but some people say it's too soon to tell. Should I tell, if I am pretty sure?!

Answer 1

I don't think you should say anything, to family at least, until the need presents it's self. You are still very young and that is a hard thing for parents to hear. Don't say anything until you are absolutely sure, at that point, let them know and don't be ashamed of who you are!

Answer 2

Your own sexual preferences are simply that, your own. You don't need to tell anyone about them. In the end as some people say it may even be too soon to tell, so give it more time until you are absolutely and not just pretty sure. In some cases as a person's sexaulity begins to waken it can become confusing, and I'm kind of betting that this is what's happening here too.

Wait, take your time and see what life brings you. Ultimately as that journey takes you forward you will meet and know which of them that you need/should to tell this too, and if they are the right people they will understand it completely. Until then, simply enjoy the journey and don't worry about this one question. Trust me, you'll have hundreds more important ones!!

Answer 3

If you're really sure than do what you feel is best for you. But remember this one thing, once you say you're Bisexual you can't take it back. It's a very serious decision that you have to make, it's not easy, be ready for a lot of questions and maybe some rejection from your family and friends. So be very sure that this is what you want to do, Good Luck!

Answer 4

Slow down. You are not currently sexually active. IT sounds like you have a leavel head and are not in a rush to have sex so chill on picking a label. Develope friendships and if a friendship becomes something more emotionally then talk openly and honestly wiht your parents about your feelings and desires and listen. Even if it is a same gender situation and your parents are not embracing they will have general wisdom and knowledge that you can learn from. I am sure they love you very much and will want the best for you. Be yourself without sex interfering as long as you can. sex really muddies the water.

Answer 5

It's not too soon to tell what sexuality you have, but consider carefully before telling many people. If you are really close to your parents and they are very open-minded, it would probably be fine to tell them you think you could be bisexual. But if you have any doubts or have had difficulties with them, keep it for now. And as far as telling friends, maybe not a good idea. If y'all have a fight or even just drift apart, they may tell people who will hold it against you or tell your whole school. It's crazy what former friends will do. So be cautious.

Answer 6

First , no one can tell you how you feel inside . Second and most important , it is very important that you honor your feelings and letting your parents know makes your feelings real . It is better they hear it from you than someone else . This life is not an easy one , but living the guilt of a double life makes it even worse .
By them knowing frees you from hiding and having to sneek around . Eventually they will come to terms with it or it may happen sooner than you think , afterall you are their child . But first it will be a burden lifted off your shoulders and makes life a little easier for you which is most important .

Answer 7

Life experience has taught me to never come out to your parents until they are ready to come out and ask you. That means that they have thought it over enough and are ready to handle the answer.

Coming out to friends is different. If you have really good friends then go ahead.

Also, I don't believe you have to be sexual in order to know what you are. I was about 12 when I figured out I was a lesbian but I didn't have sex with a woman until 17. Although, not until you are intimate will you know how you really feel. That does not mean sex btw. I knew I was fully lesbian the first time I kissed a woman. I knew right at that exact moment. It was like I had finally found home.

Answer 8

Why do some people feel this need to 'announce' their sexuality? I can remember the day my sister introduced us to her future husband. She didn't say "Family, I'm heterosexual and this is my man." It was a simple "This is Jim."

Within my family and friends, there are gays, lesbians, heteros, and even a trans-gender. None of us felt a need to 'announce' our sexual preferences any more than we felt it important to disclose which positions we prefer or whether we enjoy oral sex in the morning. None of are in the closet or have a 'secret' either. We are who we are, love who we love and live life.

Stop worrying about having to 'tell' anyone anything. At this point in your life, you are still trying to decide what you want from life... in every area, not just your sexuality. When the time is right and you meet the someone special you want to commit yourself to, just a simple introduction will do- "Family, this is Andy... or Anne..." whichever it is.

Answer 9

You can still be bi or bicurious without experience. I know how you feel because I went through the same stages. A person's sexual orientation is about close emotions rather than sexual emotions. I believe lots of people confuse sex with being bi or lesbian when I truly think it's based on how you feel deep within your heart. I think you shouldn't tell your parents. It's hard on parents and don't burden them. In fact, you should keep it to yourself because what people do in private is no one's business...Good luck!

Answer 10

Hun, Don't say anything to anyone unless you are sure or you just need a person who loves you to talk to. You are really thye only one that knows whether or not they will be ok or whether they will be abussive. My advice is NOT to hold it in. Find a school councellor or ANYONE with whom you can feel (and BE) safe with discussing how you feel. The kiss between two women is one of the most beautiful and sensuous acts. If you have someone in mind, and they are into you, then you may want to explore.