she let me go 2 months ago, i saw her several time talking with someone, she was saying im too possesive and she wants freedom. i was just waiting for her to devorce me. i dont want to do it because i love them so much. i willing to forget everything she did. tell me what to do pls. im stock here buy myself
2006-08-08 12:08:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly, a one sided relationship is worse than no relationship at all. If you are the only one that wants to be together, then there isn't much hope for you.
I think you need to take a step back and analyze her reasons for leaving you. Are you a possessive person? Did you treat her well? Did you love and support her as much as you should have or did you control her? Depending on your answers, you have a lot of thinking to do. Do you love her enough that you want to change? If you do, make a commitment to yourself first, then make that commitment to her. Tell her how you feel, apologize for how you may have treated her, and then ASK her to give you the chance to SHOW HER that you've changed. Then ACT. Talk is cheap my friend, but actions speak for themselves.
If she left you because she wants to be with someone else... accept it as hard as it may be. You'll heal with time... and why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you?
2006-08-08 12:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by sugar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being by yourself is the best thing. Take stock of yourself. Find whats good in you and concentrate on that. But also, find out what you can change about yourself that will benefit you as well. Ask yourself: Am I too needy? Do I dread being alone? Do I make excuses to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me?
These are good questions. Develope stregnth within yourself and learn to appreiate yourself better. But do all these things for YOU!!! Not your ex-girl...
2006-08-08 12:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kendall K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way you word yourself confuses me a little bit :P
i am not sure what you are saying you miss her but want to divorce her and you love who so much?
very confused but i can tell you this:
my husband has been a pig he has done SO many things AGAINST our marriage ...based on recent events i may be able to get our marriage enulled! i am very happy - my advice is if she f*#$s around once get rid of her right away i made the mistake of giving the jerk a second third fourth etc chance ...
you will be happy in the end - sorry for my mis-spelling the true blonde is shineing through :P
2006-08-08 12:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you kick her out? She was the one messing around. She was probably bored. She will get tired of him. Your first priority should be the kids. Are they your kids? Family counseling, if necessary ask your lawyer or judge for help to restore family.
If they are not your children, then move on and find a woman who will be faithful and good to you.
Good luck
2006-08-08 12:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a counselor.
Start communications with her. Be willing to accept her choices and don't try to control her.
Let her know what you feel and see what you two can work out around visitation times.
2006-08-08 12:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on like she did. She doesn't want to be with you anymore. Learn to be less possessive with the next person you hook up with. Love and possession is not the same thing.
2006-08-08 12:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are going to have to accept the fact that she does not want to be with you. You will have to try to move on. I know that it is going to be hard but it will be even harder trying to make someone be with you that doesn't want to. Good luck.
2006-08-08 12:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to spell and learn to not be so possesive. shes probably sick of you. leave her alone and stop trying to make her feel bad by using her kids as a weapon.
2006-08-08 12:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET IT GO IF SHE DOESNT WANT YOU DONT FORCE YOURSELF ON HER YOU GOT TO KNOW THE KIDS AND FELL IN LOVE WITH THEM BUT THEY ARE HER KIDS AND IF SHE SAY NO YOU CANT SEE THEM YOU HAVE TO RESPECT THAT ITS GOINGTO BE HARD BUT KEEP YOURSELF BUSY DOING THINGS A HOBBY ACTIVITY YOUR JOB FAMILY FRIENDS KEEP BUSY AND YOU WILL SEE AS TIME GOES ON YOUWILL HEAL GOOD LUCK
2006-08-08 12:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you and she both need counseling together and separately.
2006-08-08 12:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋