Does it bother you?

Question

Does it bother anyone else that most of the topics in this category are so shallow. It just kind of depresses me reading some of the topics that are posted. Isn't it like we are asking people to look down on and hate gays when we post things like "Why does my mother lick the sperm of my dad`s bellybutton, they invited me to do the same?is it normal?" or "Gee,My friend just turned into a gay and were like best friends , I want to turn also but she wont tell me how". But I do also have to give props to those that ask good questions like ones that actually challenge our way of thinking.

I guess it just kind of depresses me because everyone gets all up in arms when somebody comments and it's a homophobic response but we don't really do anything to improve our image to the outside world.

I don't know. I guess I might just need to get off my high horse and get a different perspective on things.

drew

Answer 1

Well, let's also take into consideration that a lot of these folks who ask things like the belly button question.....might actually be hets who have decided it would be fun to come and tease the gay people. I've seen it a lot on this site. And yes, you are right...there are some folks who post things here who ARE gay that might be construed as "shallow"

But let's think about this. This is OUR forum. We should be (and are) entitled to post just about anything here. How often do you get to be part of a large glbt population at one place and time? How often do you really get to talk openly with other gay/lesbian/bisexual and transgendered people? Sometimes i think some of these questions get posted because people feel connected in some way, and because of that, it's almost like talking to family.

I just read a question that someone else posted that asked what we were doing personally to help the gay and lesbian image. I told that person I was simply living....openly, honestly and truthfully. So why shouldn't anyone else do that? The questions might be shallow some times....but try not to judge to harshly. This is the only place that some of these peolpe can even BREATHE that they are gay.

And, another thing....lol, I think I jumped on the high horse when you got off...I really shouldn't have to prove myself to the straight contingent. And if I'm proving anything, it's that I'm human. Sometimes I think our community feels that they have to be perfect all the time in order to be accepted. To me, that's pure bullsh*t. Be who you are....which is a human being that is capable of very shallow behavior or extreme intelligence.

Answer 2

Hey Drew...Don't let it get you down. This is a free site open to anyone. You are right that some people do abuse the site and this is annoying but the majority of people use it appropriately. I have got some great answers to my questions and I have answered many questions in a way that I hope was helpful to the asker. Homophobics generally speaking are uninformed, immature and are attracted to sites such as this where they can "gay bash" anonymously.The thing is though that there are many, many people both gay and straight who ask intelligent questions and give intelligent and often very helpful answers.Ignore the idiots and enjoy the site.

Buckoe

Answer 3

There are those that want to share their perversions so that they can feel validated in their perversions and then there are those that have never done something that have a desire to do and want to make sure they are going about it the correct and safe way. Then there are those that are not in the lifestyle and have heard things that sound appealing and legitimately want to know about these acts. I dont mind some of these because they legitamately want to know. I wish there was some way to keep the kids from posting stupid questions like the stale poot guy and others. Homophobes can be anoying but we all know eventually they will be here with us. LOL I dont think we can do anything about this but it is nice to get the things off our chest that bother us.

Answer 4

I completely understand where you are coming from Drew. When I initially started up on Yahoo Answers, I saw it as a place where relatively challenging questions qould be asked to spark up a debate. For a while there, there were some awesome questions that were really starting to get me thinking on how I thought about particular issues, but things have started to go downhill. Yes, I must agree with a few people who have already mentioned it. The place is filled with Teens and Pre-teens. Coming out of that age myself, I can understand the curiosity that comes with that period of time, but there is a line which many of these people have crossed.

Its the same with most of the threads. On many occasions I have visited the Men's Health thread, only to find that people are far too preoccupied on the size of a penis of how to make themselves shoot more/further/longer (you take your pick!), instead of actually asking real questions.

The biggest thing that bothers me is the amount of questions being asked again, again, again and again. Fair enough that there are cases where situations are different, but how many times does the title "How do I come out to my parents?" have to be repeated? or "Do you agree with circumcision?" I'm getting totally sick of seeing these things. Its just as bad as the inappropriate comments and questions that are being posted here online.

I've often wondered if Yahoo should select certain people who have asked/answered appropriate and relevant questions to moderate particular threads. im sure that it could be quite beneficial to everybodies time here on answers.

So stay up on your horse Drew, it seems that you've got the beginnings of a cavelry within this particular question already...

Josh W
Auckland, New Zealand.

Answer 5

I don't think that the people asking those types of questions are part of the homosexual community. Everyone is allowed to post questions on here. Just because it's in this section doesn't mean that it's written by a LGBT. It's most likely a homophobic person looking to push people's buttons.

Answer 6

Drew, I completely agree with you! However; I believe many of those type of questions, you are describing are from small minded individuals who really are not gays, lesbian, transtrans-sexual, or bi-sexuals; but indeed pranksters, imposter's, hooligans and worse haters.

Don't be depress or discourage about their behavior. I find the form an excellent place where people can actually get some informative information on life's challenges. Common sense gives us the ability to not even respond, even for two points.

Answer 7

It is bothersome, but most of the people asking the stupid or mundane questions are children or child like so it is expected. As for the vulgar and disdainful comments, report them, don't put up with them.

I am not sure that Gay people are so different that we need to prove ourselves as humans. We feel, love and experience the same pains and joys as anyone else.

My partner and I have been together 25 years and we don't hide our sexuality or relationship from anyone, we have our own business everyone knows we are gay, but we don't go out of our way to point it out. Frankly we are who we are and we set a good example for all gay people by being good people first.

Gay people come in all varieties both good and bad, the media likes to fixate on the unusual or shocking, but most of us are normal people leading normal lives, and don't make for very good copy on TV.

Be yourself, be good, and people will know you for who you are and not what you are!

Answer 8

No, I completely agree and the implications behind the stupid questions are so damaging. Anyone outside the community who reads this stuff thinks that we're all engaging in incest and bestiality. It's sick and the "kids" (regardless of age they are being incredibly imature) need to stop playing around with the identity and livelihood of productive adults. I just wish there were more ways to screen this stuff before it gets posted cause I am just so sick of reporting people. LGBT individuals are dynamic, successful, and compassionate people that need to be treated with some respect, the same respect that all other communities expect and demand.

Answer 9

No, I feel you on that, and trust, it's not US doing the damage. It's those who want to damage us, or little kids coming in here when mommy and daddy aren't looking.
Most of my questions have some sort of pertinent thought behind them (though, I must admit once I was looking for the number to a gay bar in my area and for the life of me could not find it anywhere online and yesterday I did have a rant, but besides all that, anyway)
Don't worry, hopefully things will change here, and maybe they won't. But we can't let a few internet insults get in the way of what really matters....and that's the fight for equality!

Answer 10

It would bother me only if I allowed it to.

Of course it can be annoying but the best thing to do is ignore the stupid and shallow questions and answer those few you think might have some worth. And yes, I know, there are so many stupid questions that many times I will take one glance and leave the forum.