Answer this, PLEASE!?

Question

Why do some people emphasize everything that others do wrong? I mean, it's like they have no weak points at all! Which is simply absurd! Moreover, it's the ones that tend to have a lot of weaknesses that actually look for other people mistakes the most!!! Let me hear what you have to say!

Do they just have tough lives or maybe they had tough childhoods?

Answer 1

It is their way of gaining CONTROL.They want you to think they are superior. It's their way of covering up their inadequacies. A smoke screen.

Answer 2

I agree with oceana, above. Some people do this to take the focus off themselves. By saying someone else does something wrong, it shifts the conversation away from their potential issues. Also, by saying someone else does something wrong, they may be trying to justify their own action (See, they did it; it must be okay). Another reason (although closely tied in with these) is that by criticizing others, they think it makes them look superior, when in fact it usually just makes them look immature.

If you have a friend or relative that displays this behavior, I suggest two ways of dealing with it. 1) Explain to them how it isn't very constructive (criticism) and that it bothers you, and/or 2) Avoid that person; try to find new more empathetic and supportive friends. Life is too short to put up with much negative behavior, and there really isn't any need to. By allowing it or ignoring it, we show that it is appropriate behavior, when in fact it usually isn't.

Answer 3

Tough childhood is the strongest factor. Some might went through some trials and tribulations in life what shaped them that way! My suoervisor (from Panama) is the greatest example for me. I been working with her now for good 6-7y, but nothing puts me down. I am from Germany and we are hard headed, stubborn people and I prove my point. "I did not do it" is her favorite phrase. She does not want to admit when she did something wrong or hurtful to someone else!

Answer 4

Usually people that point out others' wrong doings are feeling guilty for their own. If they can take the focus off themselves then they feel better. They may also have a low self-image and that helps build them up in a sick kind of way. Then there are those who just simply like to find fault in others.

Answer 5

Your question is an excellent one.

Sometimes emphasizing others' mistakes takes the focus off of one's own mistakes.

I don't think one can generalize that those who are hypercritical had bad childhoods (although sometimes this is indeed the case--they had a hypercritical parent and it is learned behavior)--

but one can safely say that hypercritical people have missed the point of life: contributing to others, not diminishing others' sense of well-being.

Answer 6

It only seams like they have no weak points because of the way they are putting you down. One thing to do about that is be extra kind and accept thefact that the have no positive attention and therefore theyare getting negative at least. All they need is a true and kind friend.

Answer 7

In some cases, teh people who do things wrong, or who do things which are wrong, are the ones who have either bad or no morals, and are manipulative, convincing self contradictory liars.
They're also often real trouble makers, who had poor upbringing, and whose parents were worse.

Answer 8

I would say that............. Those people must have had a miserable childhood. These people are very unhappy and cannot see any faults of their own but criticize all others.

"O" Wise One has spoken.

Answer 9

It's a need to be the center of attention, often steming from lack of attention as children.

Answer 10

they probably have tough lives and are too much of a loser in the first place to need to make themselves feel better...i totally agree with you...

Answer 11

Yep many people criticize what others do but really feel low bout themselves.