Child Support?

Question

Well I just had a hearing where the Mom lied to the judge and I told the truth and guess what, I got screwed. 900+ increase because "thats what the graph says" and if I increase my visitation and custody it may go down, but if I make more money, it will go up. Can you belive this crap? Kids are 8 and 6 and fear flying, over 400 miles from me. Her husband is a doper that hasnt worked in over a year because he cant pass a drug test. So now I guess Im supporting him too. All I can do is quit my job which I love, and work under the table. As well as move to a getto becase that is all I am going to be able to afford. Any other suggestions?

Answer 1

File a motion for a rehearing on child custody. Go on the grounds of an unsafe living environment. If you have concrete proof that there is drugs, usage, dealing whatever there, then you have an excellent chance of winning the kids back. Also if you can prove child abuse, neglect too, would be great help. Now none of this will be easy but bif you want them bad enough, but just make sure its concrete evidencelike police reports, hospital or doctor reports, etc. Child custody and support are the only 2 things a court will rehear after a final divorce decree. Its worth they try and Good luck

Answer 2

Well let me tell you i am a single mother now and i am lucky if i get $20 a year for child support. Do you have a lawyer? If not get one and have him/her look in to what you need to do and what rights you have as a parent. If you feel like the children are in danger from the husband then do something about it. What ever you do don't give up on your kids. My daughter is 10 and wonders why her dad does not send any money or even want to see her. I have never said one bad thing about him in front of her and i never will. Just look at this way you are trying to make sure your kids are taken care of and have everything they need in life. If they are afraid of flying then take time off work and go see them. Get a hotel room that has a pool and spend the week end with them if nothing else. Just try your best for now and get a lawyer. I know i will never see any money from her father and i am doing the best i can. I would never keep him from seeing her. But it is his choice not to. Always love your children not matter how bad things are with the mother/father. They will remember everything you do for them and everything you don't do for them in their life growing up. Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

The system is put there so your kids will not be forgotten, if she lied and you have proof, you can petition the court again, to lower your payments. They go by the scale for a reason, but they are not there to put you into debt. They only take a percentage of what you make to raise your children. And believe me, if you were living in the same home, you know it would cost much more than that to actually raise your children!

Your best bet is to make sure she is not using it to support her husbands drug habit, and if she is and you have proof, that too can be accomplished through the FOC, they are there for the children, not just your wife, but both of you!

Answer 4

I feel your pain. My lawyer told me to tell the truth at all cost in court because the judge would see through the lies. Yet not one word of truth was told by my ex wife and her attorney. I even had their lies documented in writting and the judge said he didnt care because children belong with mothers and fathers should accept their role in life and just pay child support. Dont quit your job dude. Even if you get paid less the judge will say you are capable of earning more based on your present job and still make you pay more.

Answer 5

First your kids are TOO young to fly alone.
Second start documenting everything on paper with dates and times.
Get a voice recorder and record your phone calls with your kids and ex wife and her boyfriend. That way you cant forget what was said so you can properly document it and so if you have to you can take her to court and use anything she says against her. But dont tell them you are recording. Best buy for 60 bucks.
Get a camera that prints the date on the picture and use it when you can...like if you send presents to one address and they come back to you because she hasnt told you a new address yet...take a picture of when you sent them and when (and if) you got them back. remember, your kids will only need your money until they are 18. your ex cant have it all forever.

good luck.

Answer 6

Who put the 400 miles between you and your kids? You need to pay your child support and provide for your kids. Maybe you shouldn't live so far away from them. Also, if you don't pay, they will take your license and eventually put you in jail, then prison. Get an attorney and go back to court if you were made to pay an unfair amount.

Answer 7

Wow, I understand. I am so pissed at my ex cuz he doesn't pay and supports a crank whore and pays HER child support for her.
My S/O on the other hand pays his child support and his ex has a guy living with them that doesn't work and his kids tell how first thing mom does with their ck is buy the boyfriend his beer.. and then they go get dope, too. It is bad for decent guys like you and I am sorry. Just try to love you kids the best you know how and don't bad mouth their mother to them. They will know.

God Bless.

Answer 8

Seems to me your best chance is to file for custody. It is expensive. You have to go through all types of psychological exams and social services crap, but it may prove you to be the best parent. It sounds like you are anyway.

Answer 9

And why aren't you filing for custody? And suck it up, it sucks you might be supporting the boyfriend, but you're also supporting the kids which is what you're supposed to be doing.

Answer 10

man thats really gotta suck. im sorry. i want a better job too but i dont want to have to pay more to the mom cuz she doesnt spend it all on my daughter