Is it normal to feel insecure when you're pregnant?

Question

I am pregnant with my boyfriends baby and though we hope to marry in December (before baby gets here) I still feel very insecure about my relationship with him. He is a very loving person but if he doesn't call me at least twice a day I start to feel insecure and like "well maybe he doesn't really want to marry me" or "maybe he feels he HAS to marry me now that I'm having his kid" or I think sometimes that maybe he's not being faithful to me ALL because he doesn't call me at LEAST twice a day. Is it normal to feel THIS overly insecure while you're pregnant? I think I'm driving myself insane. Sometimes I think I might drive him away by being insecure too so I try to hide it. Please someone help me.

Answer 1

Yes, it is very normal, plus your hormones are in flux so you'll probably experience some weird mood swings.

Answer 2

YES!!! married women feel the same way! and it doesn't stop with just the first pregnancy. TRUST ME!

the best thing you can do is provide him with books by men for pregnancy. each one (if it's written by a father) will go in detail on how the pregnant woman is a nutcase. Every woman has different levels of hormones. have your dad talk to him. have him talk to his own dad.

Do not make any major decisions while you are pregnant. You are not thinking correctly. Learn to accept it. Because once you pass post partum you will have regained all your senses and can then make a rational decision.

Does he come home to you? (if you live together) Does he at least call when he says he does? He did propose. And in this day and age, men stopped doing that unless they have shotgun to their head. Keep in mind men do get hormonal too. My hubby now, freaking christ, he's so sensitive about jokes now. he didn't used to be like this. but it will even out in time. I'm sure he has just as much on his mind as you have on yours.

And don't be embarrassed to say anything about it. Tell him you think you may be a little over hormonal and you need his patience. And give the same to him. If he thinks something is unreasonable, beat him over the head. he should know better to argue with you anyway! J/K

Answer 3

I am insecure too. I constantly feel like I've trapped my boyfriend into something he's not ready for. We're not married, but we've tossed the idea around. Being pregnant just made me like four hundred times more antsy and worried about every little thing. I think the best thing is to voice your insecurities. I do it, and even though (at the time) I feel horrible, and my boyfriend gets all depressed (he actually thinks I don't love HIM when I bring this issue up) when I talk about my insecurities, I feel it's necessary to keep communication between us wide open. You have to share your dreams AND your fears to have a good relationship. There is a chance that being "clingy" will make him freak out, but hell, you're having a child together. Remind him that you really do need his support now, and remind him that these intense fears might just be hormonal.

Hug yourself babe. It will be ok.

I don't know your situation, like if you're living together or if you're apart, if you see each other every day or not... But I know I crave closeness, and get VERY clingy to my boyfriend. We racked up 450 text messages this last month, if that tells you anything... I have no idea how many times I've texted him at work, while he's over at a friend's or gone to the store for me. I just don't want him to be gone at all!! And we LIVE together, we sleep together, breathe, eat, everything together. But the 5 minutes he's gone I feel like I'm going to DIE or something. I try really hard to give him some alone time, I know he needs it more than I do :) Just give him a little breathing room from time to time, but he probably understands that you're a little extra emotional. If he can't call you, can he text you? Can he stop by and see you, to give you some support? You have to have that closeness, I understand this. Just tell him. I'm sure it doesn't mean that he doesn't want to marry you... I'm sure he loves you very much, and wants you to be happy.

I think it is indeed normal to be THIS insecure lol... I know I certainly am. But I just have to put things in perspective... And realize he doesn't feel the same hormones I do, and can't POSSIBLY feel as strongly as I do about sticking together 24/7!!

Good luck, best wishes honey.

(I'm due late November, what about you? You mentioned getting married in December, before bub gets here...)

Answer 4

I felt very emotional too during my pregnancy because the whole thing is an unpredictable roller coaster ride! You'll have your ups and downs. You aren't being selfish, it is natural to have these concerns. I have to say though, when the baby comes you'll find it does affect your relationship to a certain degree. my partner and I argue much more than before (baby is 3 months old) but our relationship was rock solid before so we are able to whether out the storms now. I suggest you keep the lines of communication open NOW, be open and honest(but not argumentative) and ensure any issues you have with each other are sorted out now and left in the past when baby comes along. It's quite difficult at first(at least it was for us!) so you have to make sure that even if you argue that you are in it as a team! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy xxx

Answer 5

Yes the way ur feeling is very normal. I think u should talk to him about the marriage--and tell him that u would like it if he called u more often--specially with the pregnancy and all ur hormones get all messed up and cuz of ur body changes u may feel insecure. Im three months pregnant and about 1 month ago I would fight alot with my babys daddy about silly things. Talk to him and talk about the marriage---dont worry he loves u--cuz guys today dont give a rats if a girl is having his baby. I hope u feel better!!!

Answer 6

Yes, it is very normal. I am married and I still feel like that. Especially with my first child. I think all of us go through these emotions. Just explain to him that you feel this way and maybe he will be more sensitive to your needs and feelings. I am due in December too! Congrats.

Answer 7

I was insecure from day one! Honey, being a mom is a big deal with or without the dad's support. I understand your fear in him just marrying you b/c of the baby. Being pregnant is just one big emotional roller coaster with a cute little person at the end of it. Take it easy and pamper yourself by being gentle with yourself when you can...do stuff for yourself..a nice bath w/candles...rotfl..I lived in the tub on weekends...get a massage, a pedicure or manicure...paint your nails..take a walk.....this too shall pass!

Answer 8

It is normal.. Your hormones are sooooo out of control right now... You will be happy one minute sad the next... Just share with your boyfriend how you are feeling. I am sure he will help you feel more secure... It is a very emotional time for you =)

Answer 9

yes because there's so much riding on the relationship now that you two are having a baby. i started to feel the same way

Answer 10

Its called hormones...your hormones are making you crazy. Relax...he would have left by now if he was going to. Sit him down, and talk to him...tell him what you are feeling. Tell him to bear with you being crazy because its just your out of control hormones.