2006-08-08 11:13:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You divorced him for a reason. It sounds like when someone goes to White Castle and gets cheeseburgers. Then they get a stomach ache and toot all night. About a month later they remember how good White Castle Burgers taste and they go buy some more. Then up all night with a stomach ache and the toots. You need to forget how good it tastes and remember the stomach ache and toots.
2006-08-08 11:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by itzmedbd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 'love' him? Really? Or do you love the idea of some him, the idea of who you WISH he was? They are very different things. In order to say you love him you have to be able to say you love who he is, what he does, the way he treats you, the way your life together has turned out, doesn't sound like thats the case. Going back to an ex is almost always a bad idea, it didn't work for a reason, over time people forget the bad so they go back then things go back to the way they were before and they are suddenly saying OH CRAP I remember this! Its like putting spoiled milk back in the fridge and convincing yourself it will be better next week, the memory of the smell fades UNTIL you take another sniff!
2006-08-08 18:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a friend that was separated from her husband 4 times now they are separated again she said she will never go back as nothing changed each time they got back together it took her 4 times to realize that i am not saying that some relationships do not work when people get back together however you just can not go back in and try without getting some kind of help for the problem that cause it in the first place and both of you will want to want to do this ..Good luck!!
2006-08-08 18:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember there was good reasons im sure why you two got divorced. Dont just think of the good times you had with him... remember the bad that made you go as far as divorcing him. Make sure the things that were causing you two problems are dissolved! Good luck!
2006-08-08 18:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you marry him again? If you didn't then at least you know it's not going to work out the second time around. If you did, then think about why you still love him and work hard to make it work, cause from what I know about life, there is NO third chances. Get professional counseling if you have to. Don't loose the one you love if you don't want it to happen.
2006-08-08 19:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way it will ever work is if the reasons you got the divorce is resolved - it won't simply go away, you have to address why you divorced in the first place. if you can resolve that, maybe it will work....but don't settle because it is familiar and comfortable.
2006-08-08 18:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how does he feel? If he also thinks the divorce was a mistake, you can get remarried. If he doesn't, you'd be best cutting ties and moving on with your life.
2006-08-08 18:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did the same thing. Tried to save it for the kids but it didn't work. The same problems reoccur.
2006-08-08 20:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by knock_turn_nal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you too, should stay together, learn to communicate and solve all issues. marriage is very very very hard. you need to work on it constantly, can't just give up, as long as you ove each other, you should make all the effort to make it work.. good luck.
2006-08-08 18:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a better person than me. When I seperate from a man, we stay that way.
Good luck
2006-08-08 18:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋