Married ladies! Do you sometimes feel like getting a divorce??

Question

I have been fighting with my husband a lot lately and sometimes I don't even want to see him. I know I love him but I feel like I'm getting tired of him and the same issues all the time. We have been together 5 years, no kids. Is this normal? Is it temporary? How do I know when it's over?

Answer 1

Everyone goes through times when they wonder what they were thing...but you married him for a reason...and your marriage is worth fighting for. Could you imagine seeing him out with someone else...would it bother you? Well if you say yes...then you are just going through a little bump in your marriage. Dont give up so easily. Give it a chance! Good luck!!!

Answer 2

Hi there,

No, I don't ever feel like getting a divorce. Sometimes, I do feel like getting in my car and driving a long, long way away from my family for a while!!!

May I suggest that you and your husband get some counseling? My husband and I have gone a few times and both of us found it VERY helpful. We also have the same issues over and over.....I think most couples do....and I also think those issues will continue to be a struggle for us for our entire marriage. We have been married for 8 years and it has been a rollercoaster with highs and lows - just like normal life - you're not happy 100% of the time or sad 100% of the time because the balance is always shifting.

I think you know when it is over when:

1. Neither of you is interested in trying to improve the relationship (i.e. go to counseling together).

2. You have gone through counseling together for at least a year and nothing has changed.

3. You or he are abusive, destructive to each other or if there are drugs or alcohol involved.

Whatever you do.....do NOT get pregnant. If you think your relationship has problems now, getting pregnant will only make the problems 10 times worse, not better. It is better to get your relationship figured out before having children. If counseling can help fix your relationship, then have a good relationship for a few years and then have kids. But if you decide you don't want to work on your marriage, or it just won't get better, then you two can decide to go your seperate ways....without screwing up the lives of your kids.

Call a counselor, and give that a try. If your relationship still fails at least you'll know you gave it your best shot.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

It can be normal for couples to go through periods where things aren't peachy, it's just part of being married and it will pass. There is also a time when a couple goes through the "7yr itch" - where the marriage may get hard, and/or you or your spouse may become disenchanted with the idea of marriage - I suppose it could happen before 7yrs of marriage too.
If you aren't getting anywhere with talking your problems out, then you should tell your hubby you wanna get into counseling. There is no reason to just up and get a divorce because you are tired of him or being married. You made a committment and you should do everything in your power to fight for your marriage.

Answer 4

My husband and I have been together 14 years, married 10. Sometimes, like right now, I get tired of the day to day. He left for sturgis last weekend, and I am enjoying the break. I figure by the time he gets back, I'll miss him and be ready to reunite. I think it's perfectly normal and maybe you just need a little break. Sometimes we even sneak off for a romantic weekend when we get in a rut. That works wonders.

Answer 5

It's very normal, according to my therapist. lol My husband and I have been doing that for our entire marriage. And we're going on ten years now. He tends to want to put us in very traditional roles, and he's got this list of priorities that doesn't seem to include our relationship on it. And we fight, sometimes big, sometimes little, and I've gotten to that point many, many times and talked myself out of it, for various reasons. But I'm still here and we're talking more these days (because I've gotten where you're at--wondering if it's really just over and half ready to just walk out the door--and making him listen) and I can honestly say I see a light at the end of the tunnel. We've gotten a lot closer in the last 6 months. I see the man I fell in love with again. He looks at me differently, the way he did when we were dating.

So I say it's time to call it quits...only when you've tried everything possible but nothing's changing. I went to therapy for a while and my counselor was a woman who didn't believe in divorce, she believed in making it work. If you haven't been to counseling, I'd highly reccomend it, and if he won't go with you, go by yourself. Don't give up yet, honey.

Answer 6

Hey,
I don't think there is a married woman alive that can say she hasn't wanted to just walk away! and some have! You have to remember you made an oath with GOD to be married, and since you did don't you think you ought to do everything in your power to make it right? Pray keep GOD FIRST in your marriage, you will find you argue less. Listen to what he saying, repeat what you have heard, sometime all he needs is just a little bit. Cherish each other, DATE even if your money is funny and funds are low go on a pic nick. And have sex!!!!Play games, do whatever! Enjoy each others company, because tomorrow isn't promised, he could be gone and so could you! You should enjoy the time your here and enjoy each other!

Answer 7

Well if you made it 5 years those are the worst ,no its not normal,but i am going through the same thing,ive been with my husband for 8 years,i guess its time for a little alone time to see if we love or just use to each other you know take it easy and good luck love him dont hate him..."time will tell when its over "just dont even pay attention believe me it works its working for me

Answer 8

I am in same situation girl, we have been arguing for the pass few months. I am currently away from home with one of the kids, we have three. I want to go home but we need some breathing space, and we have talked about divorce. Divorce should have happened a long time ago. I hope that mine is just the seven year itch.

Answer 9

girl Ive been married 10 years and still no kids you have to decide what you want out of life and go with it .only your heart can tell you when its over. i cant say its over my namber cant tell you its over .only you know that answer. what are you willing to put up with that is question you need to ask your self. We fight often about the same issues it like a never ending story just replaying it self. men don't change Woman don't change we are who we are and that it nothing more nothing less. you cant change a person to the way you want them to be as much as you and i want . It cant be done . So except what you can not change or move on . your choice

PS this is coming from the heart from some one who knows.

Answer 10

Yes i did and now I'm getting a divorce...Sorry to say but i mean if your feeling that way it might be because your feelings have change and it's normal don't think things like this don't happened...Or it's just something you two can work out...But whatever makes you happy and sometime going your own way is better...

Best Wishes ♥