My husband doesn't wanna talk to me his daily routine and just wants me to do my own thing keep saying that he needs his own zone. Unfortunately we are not together atm b/c of each other's jobs. So when he's back home from work, I call him or I log on AIM to chat him but he's just saying that he is tired so we can't have talking nor chatting. And if we do, we end up with fighting because I want some decent talks but I don't think we both know how to talk without getting mad. He said I'm too paranoid wondering where and what he is doing every moment. I simply wanna know how his day was and what he did and all. Isn't that natural thing?
2006-08-08 10:51:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Looks like someone needs to get a job with different hours if you want your marriage to work. How can you be close if you are never together? Sounds like it is getting easier for him and you need to know why he doesn't miss you also.
2006-08-08 11:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband has a problem of some sort. I dont mean mental oo hopefully not physical. It doesnt seem to be you or hed be farther away from you. But something definitely is bothering him and he doesnt want you to find out about it which is why the hostilities when you ask him questions. What you are asking are perfectly normal questions but for some reason they are annoying him so he takes it out on you. Hes afraid by you asking questions youre going to discover whats eating him so he is being very protective of himself. It may be somethings hes done or is about to, or even something bad is about to happen ,like loss of job, etc. Its too hard to tell from your question. But if he wants his space then by all means give it to him. Let him know that you are there in case he wants to talk but then let it be and dont force him. I realize you want to be the loving and caring wife but until you figure whats bothering him,give him some space. Good luck and if I can helpmore, plase email me
2006-08-08 18:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You husband should talk to you. You need to tell him the way he's treating you is making you unhappy your just trying to have a healthy relationship. A thing my step mum does is she said OK you don't want to talk now or your to busy so what time can you make me an appointment to discuss .... and catch up it's so polite even my dad who loves to live in his cave has to agree to such reason-ability.
2006-08-08 18:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just tell him that you two are married and you feel like your alone in this marriage. tell him that it cant go on like this anymore that something is going on obviously, and that it is time that both of you make time to sit for a couple hours or so to talk about what is going on and how we are going to fix it, that you cant go threw this anymore, and if he loves you or has ever loved you he will make the time. tell him that he needs to be honest with you or its not going to work, that if it means divorce fine but i want to know why, i deserve to know why, this is what you tell him. you cant go on living like this it is unhealthy and not good at all. good luck
2006-08-08 18:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. ask him if he is seeing some else, and how he responds to your question. and log on to see if he email anyone else(boy or girl) Now days you never know. check credit card records bank account. days off work. OR maybe he really needs his on space.
2006-08-08 18:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to offend you but when my husband used to treat me that way it was a sign that he was cheating. How could he tell you about his day if he spent it with someone else.
2006-08-08 18:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is natural to want to know and I also think that it sounds like yall are growing apart.
2006-08-08 18:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by juggaknots2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, that id natural. so like he doesn't want to cooperate and talk with you. did you ask him why is he reacting this way? i think the excuse he gave you is lame. you two should seek help!
2006-08-08 18:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's sounds like he's not bein faithful 2 u
2006-08-08 18:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does sound like an a**. No your not paranoid. I wish you well!!
2006-08-08 18:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by ~ Just Me ~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋