Now that your older,what advise would you give some of the younger people?

Question

Based on ups downs,in's and out's....hit's and misses. You can be as articulate in your writing as you wish(that means thought out) NO PERVERSIONS THANKYOU.
Because i believe it will help someone.
thanks

Since some of you have such an issue with my spelling.............Can you forgive me?
(smile)

Answer 1

Learn to relate to people in an honest, healthy, and constructive way. This will greatly help you in marraige, in being a better parent, and in many other parts of life (since other people are usually a part of most things we do).
Most people don't do this..and there aren't too many people modeling healthy relationships in our society. TV, movies, and music for the most part promote destructive ways of relating to others..mostly because it makes better entertainment. But in real life, it not only hurts other people, but yourself as well. If your parents are divorced or don't have a good marraige, you probably have had poor role models (relationally speaking anyway, though they may be good people otherwise). Try to spend time with an older couple that has a good marraige and watch how they relate to each other and to their children (maybe a friend's parents). Also read some self help books such as "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People".
It's natural for most people to want to be understood and to be treated right. While you shouldn't let other people walk all over you, try to be open to what others are saying to you. Try to understand them without getting defensive. Learn the value of serving other people. This is especially true for more dominate personalities. If you are a passive person, you should learn to stand up for yourself more. Learn what it means to be humble (no, it doesn't mean let people walk all over you)
I recommend spending some time in church. Even if you're not religious or you're even an atheist, there are valuable principles taught in churches. Small churches are sometimes good, but bigger churches are big for a reason. If you go to one that you don't like, try out some other ones.

Learn about money. Most people, businesses, and even the government want to get your money. If somebody's making what seems to you to be a great offer, it's probably because they want to get your money.
Beware of credit cards. If you have a tendency to spend all your money...do not buy on credit. If you do use credit cards, pay off the entire balance every month. If you don't you'll end up paying the credit card company more money than you paid for whatever thing you bought.
And the Blow Out Sale that ends today, so you better buy now....there'll be another one next month or maybe next week even. Go if there's something you were planning to buy anyway, otherwise don't bite.

When picking a career, do something you like. If you can't think of what you like, do something.

Abraham Lincoln said "Most people are about as happy as they decide to be." Decide to be happy, but not fake happy. Basically, try to have a good attitude, but don't pretend...be genuine.

Take care of yourself. Sleep 8-9 hours. Eat fresh fruit and veggies. Exercise. Brush and go to the dentist. Have good healthy relationships.

Limit your time doing useless things like TV watching and answering questions on the computer. Learn. Read. Question. Think. Solve problems. Develop your mind...it's like lifting weights with your brain.

Focus on what you can contribute to the world, your community, your family.......not on what you can get out of it. The funny thing is, you'll probably end up getting more that way and you'll be a lot happier.

Answer 2

I think most people should wait until about 29 or 30 to get married and have children. I think too many changes occur in your 20s and if you don't have a spouse that grows at the same pace as you emotionally, intellectually an spiritually, the relationship is doomed.

I would also advise younger people to hold out and not "give it up" so easily. Love and respect yourself to wait for someone who actually deserves you. Don't settle.

Answer 3

No fair! HarryHedgehog took my answer! Okay, I'll elaborate. Also learn that advise is a verb while advice is a noun, which is what you were going for, and when to use plural v. possessive. You switched around a bunch. And I'm not just being a smart ***, if you want to be taken seriously, don't mess up the small details that will make you look uneducated.

Answer 4

#1 Dont get pregnant until you are done with college and married :-) Also if you are so afraid of your mother, go to planned parenthood or get handfuls of condoms from your school or health department! Not that you need that many lol but girlsYOU CAN GET PREGNANT THE FIRST TIME.

#2 Girls, Finish college before marriage so that you can be financially independent if your husband turns out to be a drunk or a jerk.

#3 Eat your veggies, exercise, be healthy.

#4 Take time to do something nice for someone else, it is actually something nice that you can do for you! You'll know why when you do it!

#5 Money isn't everything and can't buy happiness, but poverty is no fun either. Keep your credit out of the toilet while your young so when you need it it won't be way down in the toilet!

Answer 5

First of all, most everyone on this site needs to practice their English writing skills. Second, I would say that the young girls who try to write on Yahoo are ready to compromise themselves, degrade themselves, have no morals and have no clue to male/female relationships. I feel sorry for them because they are headed for a lot of heartache and pain through life. Most people are enablers, have no personal boundaries, have no patience and really have no clue about what will get themselves through life in a functional way. I am amazed!! People need to look more at themselves and not the behavior of others. They are always trying to change and control others' behavior and miss their own dysfunctional status in life. I could go on and on......but I realize......you can't change others.....they must want to change. Perhaps the role models out there need to be changed......I don't know, if I had the answer, I would have a lot of money!

Answer 6

I would learn not to worry so much about what others think and say. The only opinions that matter or yours and your family. Stay in school and do your best. Don't rush into working unless absolutely necessary. Enjoy being a kid while it last, adulthood is not as much fun as it seems when your a kid. Learn to enjoy life and not stress over little things. There are alot of things in my youthful days I regret always remember you cant turn back time to change your mistakes but you can learn from them.

Answer 7

Now that I'm older I wish that my parents would have talked to me about the opposite sex often and the things they would say just to get what they want ..don't get me wrong my mom did raise me to respect and be honest which is what our young people are missing a lot of they need guidance now a days and also that they need to feel free to talk to their parents even though we say we know what's going on but we are not mind readers either I raise my kids so that I will be able to trust them and teach them they need to treat people with respect just like they do me and I go and talk to them about any thing I'm glad we have the open relationship but then too they know they have boundaries and I taught them responsibility and I don't reward bad behavior so when I tell them I'm very disappointed in them they feel sorry too about doing something wrong but it all starts from a baby to a toddler in raising kids you can't raise them with out limits all their childhood and expect to have them to have limits as they get older and that's my take on everything and I'm tired now!!

but I hope this helps....

Answer 8

Well the virgin thing I believe has to go. LOL. But, don't marry too quickly. Stay single until you're at least 30. And never, ever, get married unless you've been engaged a year. Do those things and you'll probaby have a very long happy love life.

Answer 9

Be as true to yourself as possible. Don't try to be older than your time. Enjoy being young. Growing up too fast can ruin your life. Don't rush. Get the best education possible and run with it. Worry about being an adult when the time comes, not before. That's why we have parents.

Answer 10

I guess the only thing I will say to this is that as you go through life you want things. know the difference between a want and a need. you need clothing, a roof over your head, utilities for the roof over your head, a car, a job, and the like. You want an ipod or a pimped out ride, or designer clothes that cost 100 bucks for the pants. Strive for what you want by taking care of your needs, then you can go for your wants. There is so much more that I could write about this, but I am on this forum, and my time is up. Thanks for listening, and my advice is just my opinion.