Gays and Lesbians...?

Question

Do you really want to be gay, or is it just something you choose to do? I'm just wondering...I'm conservitave...all the way. I just want to ask you guys who would know. Thanks!

I meant...do you really want to be gay, or do you believe you were born that way?

Why does it seem that all the cute guys are gay? I mean...they are HOT...but...their gay!

Answer 1

I am a very conservative person and also happen to be gay. I can promise you I did not choose to be gay. It is the way I was born. I can't wake up one morning and decide to be straight. Fact is I am gay and I have to live with it and accept who I am. At this point, I would not want to be any other way

Answer 2

Both. I have always been gay -- but I would not choose to be otherwise if the choice were suddenly given to me.

I have a relationship that is nearly 15 years long now, with a wonderful lover. We are happy and content.

Conservative all the way? How exactly does that effect homosexuality?

I know a fair number of gay Republicans, and some elected gay Republicans here, I'm not sure why conservative or liberal has anything to do with this issue -- explain please?

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Reynolds
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Answer 3

Yes, people are born lesbian, bi, straight, or gay. There are some people who are proud of being gay (or whatever) and others that are not, but you are who you are. You are who God made you to be and your choices then are the free will he/she gave you.

What does being conservitave have to do with it? Thought you would just toss that in there. There are conservitave and liberal gay people too you know.

Answer 4

God made me the way I am, just like God may you the way you are. I was made gay; you, perhaps otherwise. Who am I to question the gifts God gave each of us?

Being gay is NOT a choice.
Being bigoted, discriminatory and hate-filled IS a choice and is something that must be learned.
I'm not saying you are any of these things. But there are some people who call themselves 'christians' and yet come out with some of the most hate-filled speech imaginable. What hypocrites!

Answer 5

I've known more gay people than I can count and I can't think of one of them who chose to be that way. I've heard of some people out there who partake in same-sex activities as a way of experimenting or doing what is usually considered socially deviant behavior- but I don't know a single one of them. I simply have to point out that it's NOT just about sex-- one of the most in-love couples I've ever known is a gay couple Gay people genuinely are attracted to members of the same sex both physically AND emotionally- it's not just an activity, not just "something they do."

Answer 6

Your questions doesn't make sense. Do you want to or do you choose? Those are both the same.

But the question is argumentative at this point. You know that whether you agree or not, gay and lesbian people are going to tell you that it is not a choice. You know that the American Medical Association is going to tell you that it is not a choice. You know that the American Psychological Association and the American Psychatric Association are going to tell you it is not a choice.

Only you, Jerry Falwell and George Bush believe that being gay or lesbian is a choice.

Answer 7

I am a bisexual, married, g0y, I was born with my attraction to both sexes. Since I am married I don't actively go looking for women, and since I am g0y anything I do with my buds is not really cheating so go ahead let the recriminations begin. LOL
I would not wish bisexuality on my worst enemy because I am discriminated from straights like you and by the homosexual community. I can't help it that I am attracted to both. I tried desperately to change all my life and was miserable I decided to be happy so I accepted myself and God allowed me to be happy. While I was fighting against my nature I was unhappy but God made me this way and I have peace now that I accepted that. My marriage is better my desires are more in check and I am healthier physically. I stopped sublimating my desire for men with food. I have lost 70 pounds and begun working out I have muscles for the first time in my life. I have a lot of work to have the body that God intended but he has allowed enough success that I know it wont be long. You can't tell me that fighting against my nature was what God wanted for me. Why would he have made me so miserable? Why would he have made me so unhealthy? I am healthy now mentally and physically. For the first time in my life I am truly content I have the peace that I had when I first accepted Christ into my life I missed that the years that I struggled with my sexual identity. I don't think that God meant for everyone to be bisexual and I don’t think he meant for a lot of people to be homosexual but it must serve his purpose somehow. I also don’t believe that most homosexuals know Christ as they should because the religious community hates them so. I sometimes think that homosexuality is a test for Christians and so far they have failed it miserably.

Answer 8

I always knew I was gay, just like you´ve always known you´re straight. It comes naturally. Since it´s a natural thing, I don´t even wonder about what I would choose if it were up to me to choose. I have a loving gf, and life is pretty good now.

Answer 9

It certainly isn't a choice at least not in all cases. I struggled with it myself for years. Personally, I felt ashamed of it and at first tried to rationalize the feelings as some sort of normal part of being a teenager. When the feeling did not fade I had to admit to myself that I was gay. I always tell people that if I had a choice, I'd be straight. It's an issue that many gay and lesbian people struggle with. In fact, Lesbian, gay and bisexual youth are at a four times higher risk for suicide than their straight peers. ( U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, 1989).

Here are some interesting facts from http://www.lambda.org/Gay_student_facts.htm :

-The typical high school student hears anti-gay slurs 25.5 times a day.

-80% of gay and lesbian youth report severe social isolation.

-45% of gay males and 20% of lesbians report having experienced verbal harassment and/or physical violence as a result of their sexual orientation during high school.

-19% of gay/lesbian youth report suffering physical attacks based on their sexual orientation.

-Gay and lesbian youth represent 30% of all completed teen suicide: extrapolation shows this means a successful suicide attempt by a gay teen every 5 hours and 48 minutes.

Of that is just a local at what teens go through as they begin the process of coming to grips with their identity. Unfortunately, many people look at this identification as a choice. On the other hand, there is strong biological evidence that homosexuality is innate. For example, Michael Bailey and Richard Pillard studied gay men and their siblings. They found that 52% of pairs identical twins were both gay and 22% of fraternal twins were both gay, wile only 9.2% of non-twin brothers were both gay. Furthermore, a group of neurons in the hypothalamus of the brain, called INAH3, were found to be twice as big in homosexual males than they are in heterosexual males. In fact, the more closer resemble those found in heterosexual women (Simon LeVay (1991). A Difference in Hypothalmic Structure Between Heterosexual and Homosexual Men. Science, vol. 253, pp. 1034-1037). This is significant because the hypothalamus is the part of the brain that regulates sexual attraction.

Given the biological evidence and the stigma that gays and lesbians face, which no one would willingly choose to subject themselves to; I'd say the only choice is whether or not to accept oneself to make the most out of life.

-Paul

Answer 10

Depends on your belief. I believe that it's a choice because God doesn't create homosexuals or lesbians, so in that case, it would have to be a choice. If you claim you were born homosexual or lesbian, you also claim God made you that way and the bible clearly says otherwise. Now, if you don't believe in God or the bible then believe what you want about gays and lesbians.