serious sex question.?

Question

this is a two part question. my girlfriend (who i'm absolutely crazy about) is embarassed and/or uncomfortable about having sex while on her period. i don't mind sexual activity during this time, because her period is what makes her a woman in the first place. while i'm ok with intercourse, however, i don't want to perform oral sex on her during this time. my questions are 1) how do i make her feel comfortable enough to have standard (yet spectacular) sexual intercourse during "that time of the month", and 2) if she becomes comfortable enough with that to requests oral sex, how do i tell her that i'm not comfortable with that without sounding like a selfish prick (no pun intended)?

Answer 1

You are a selfish prick, leave her alone when she wants to be left alone. Honor her.

Answer 2

lets assume that you both are 18 or older of course. You don't mind sex during her time of the month cause you are a guy. cut the crap out about " that's what makes her a woman" please dude. Your a dude wanting to have sex, we don't give a crap what time of the month it is. All we know is what ever you get on your stuff, a quick shower will wash it all off. Have you ever asked your 18 or older consenting girlie friend why she is uncomfortable? Good luck, I've been with some chicks back in the day that really enjoyed having sex during her time. Then I've been with some chicks that as soon as the first sign of her period, IT WAS OFF LIMITS. Making her comfortable? she has to be comfortable with her self. It could be that she might become embarrassed of the messy end result. NO way in hell would I go down on a chick during the flowing of the red river, unless you was a dam vampire. Its not about making her feel comfortable with sex with aunt flow, its about talking her into it. You should work on that, then cross the bridge with the oral when the time comes. Good luck solider, may the force be with you.

Answer 3

1.) Ask her what exactly about it (does she not like to see her blood, does she have some kind of blood disorder she is afraid to pass to you, is her time of month a time of vaginal pain and sensitivity {As a woman I can tell you from my own personal experience that sex during menstruation is sometimes painful and everything internal feels raw from sloughing off all that tissue and from cramps as well}, did she have previous bad experiences with sex during menses etc.) she does not like. Be patient when you tell her you are okay with the blood, it feels just like natural lubrication, it does not make you feel gross/dirty etc.
2.) You can use saran wrap placed over her vulva (external genitalia) or you can use a dental dam to prevent your mouth from contacting her bare skin. You might want to put some type of water based lubricant on the side that will contact her skin to make the barrier not stick and tear and also to give it a better feel for her- you might also want to put something tasty (whipped cream, jam, or even ice cream for an interesting sensation for your girl) on your side of the barrier, especially if you use saran wrap because licking a piece of plastic isn't exactly the best flavor; dental dams sometimes are flavored. FYI don't use an oil based lubricant (vaseline, oils, lotions etc) on the barrier because they can weaken it and cause it to break, this is also true for oil lubricants and condoms- some water based commercially available lubricants are Wet, Astroglide, Eros and Forplay.

Answer 4

Bonehead! You are a selfish SOB. You want to do it period, no pun intended, with or without the monthly flow. But should there be flow, you don't want to have oral sex. So you want to do it during her period but don't want to go down on her while she's on her period, right? You say it makes you fell uncomfortable? Yet she's uncomfortable to do it while on her period? You dirty dog dog you. You want to screw regardless, who cares what she wants right? Whatever. Giveit up. Wait a few days and then mount her all you want until the next period comes along.

Answer 5

Good for the goose, good for the gander.

If you expect her to "get comfortable" with having sex, you need to attempt to "get comfortable" with giving her oral sex. It can be done without a great deal of mess and bother and she will have a SPECTACULAR orgasm, often more than once. Women usually report that sex is much, much better when they're having their periods.

Remember, the cardinal rule of sex is that if one person is having great sex, the other one will soon be too....

Answer 6

Dude, if you're not comfortable munchin bush during that time, why do you think she's not comfortable with the whole thing? It's nasty. It's not a matter of the 'beautiful woman cycle' thing...there's bodily fluids coming out...it feels disgusting and messy, and the idea of someone playing around in all that is about as appealing as someone kissing with vomit breath.
She's not comfortable. Let it be and keep it in your pants for a few days.

Answer 7

Wow..This is a personal question...But I'll try to help you out.....Ummmm...First of all it depends on how long ya'll have been together....If ya'll are really serious then just tell her that it's okay....And also tell her that you both will enjoy it more becuase of the wetness....I hate to be so blunt but I'm 22 yrs old and me and my husband have been together for 5 1/2 yrs...We've always been very comfortable with each other....What we used to do is lay a towel down underneathe me and do it that way....But you must be comfortable around each other to enjoy it....And about the other question....It's okay to go down on her just tell her to take a shower first.....Or hell you can do it in the shower....If you love each other then blood will not stop you......I hope this helps....

Answer 8

Hey I feel you I once had a lady friend that we all ways had sex or made love when her period was on, she love it and I was crazy about it, messy but put towels on the bed under her. As far as oral sex no way when her monthly is on but when that not on all is good for both party.

Answer 9

Leave her alone. If you love her, why would you want to make her feel uncomfortable? That is NOT love.

1 Corinthians 13

4 Love is patient and is kind; love doesn't envy. Love doesn't brag, is not proud,

5 doesn't behave itself inappropriately, doesn't seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil;

6 doesn't rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;

Answer 10

She won't mind that you won't have oral sex with her during that time. She's probably nervous about you getting blood on you because it sounds gross. Offer to wear a condom (you should anyway unless you're trying to conceive) to ease her mind, if you don't do that already.

Answer 11

Take the week off , Find each other on a different level than just physical. It will also help you to get use to going without after you get hitched.