My husband knows that I am attracted to a certain male friend of ours. Everybody knows that we are just friends. We often text message each other but just basic friendly chat. It makes me feel like I can't have male friends. Since I don't tell him everything that I do, say or text my male friend he gets jealous. He says that is basically talking to other men behind his back: cheating. Maybe I flirt too much and joke around about it to make it look more than what it really is. Do all guys get mad at their women for having male friends?
2006-08-08 09:38:30 · 7 answers · asked by Krazy K 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's natural for a person to get jealous. Especially if it's well know you are attracted to someone else. I think his jealousy is justified. Especially if your behavior and attitude is different towards this other guy. If there is nothing going on, then share some text messages etc with him. Dont make it such a secret if its just basically friendship.
There is nothing wrong with having male friends. But when you are married, acting a certain way with other men may cause an issue depending on your relationship with your husband. If it bothers him, maybe you should sit down and have an honest talk with him.
Also ask yourself, what is it you are doing that could be making him jealous. Whatever that behavior is, stop doing it. Not all guys get mad about flirting and having male friends....IF they are secure in their relationship with their wife/gf. If you are flirting and making it look more than it is, then I would seriously think about why you do it. And think about how would you feel if the situations were reversed, would it bother you if your husband behaved the way you do with another woman?
I think there is more to the story here than what is posted. So it's really hard to give you really good advice. But if i were you, i'd either start sharing more with my husband or stop doing what you're doing with the other male.
2006-08-08 09:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by anna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're attracted to this man, and your husband knows that, and you continue to put your self in situations with him, I consider that cheating.
It doesn't matter if it's friendly chat or not, it bothers your husband and could put a strain on your marriage. I think you should chose who you are most loyal to and who you love more. Your husband or this male friend.
2006-08-08 09:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may not be so much upset that you have male friends. (Some guys are unreasonable like that, but this doesn't sound like the case here). It sounds ilke he's upset that you're attracted to another guy and you talk with this man often. Often in secret. I think, in this case, he has a perfectly ok reason to atleast feel uncomfortable.
2006-08-08 09:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having male friends is one thing but emailing them is completly different and you are asking for trouble. why are you text messaging another man anyway? I have male friends and my husband has email friends but we do not text them we talk to them in person
2006-08-08 09:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by mama bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im bi and i have a gf so i get mad at her when she talkes to other guys or girls....my gf can be a flirt some times and i usually hate it cuz then i have to deal with the others having a crush of a fling for her
2006-08-08 09:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well look at this way can he have a female friend in the same sense. Ifyou known you`re certain thing just don`t do it
2006-08-08 09:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by giggi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time to ask yourself how you would feel if your husband had ladies that he confided in. If that's ok with you, then you need to ask yourself what you think the meaning of marriage is....&/OR why you are married.
2006-08-08 09:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋