i have been friends with this person for 8 years, we are best of friends well at least i htought so anyways, we have always stayed in touch with one another and we go out and do things together , we have always had fun, and talked about many things. i got this person a job twice now, a very good worker, dependable, we talked every day at breaks, road together a few times, i have done alot for this person, and my friend got another job offer and just quit this one, im not mad but now my friend just don't call, or answer the phone. i haven't spoke to my friend now for a week. i told my friend in a text message i didn't get mad about quitting, but my friend never returned the message. what should i do? i know i never said or done anything to deserve this treatment after everything i have helped with. i was a true friend, can anyone figure this one out? we got off work on a friday, i went back to work on monday, my friend never came in or called, that was the last i heard .
2006-08-08 09:35:31 · 7 answers · asked by jenna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i thought my friend would think im mad, but im not, my friend got a better job offer im happy for my friend. maybe my frriend thinks im mad since i got the job and my friend just quit.
2006-08-08 09:37:02 · update #1
this might hurt, but i think there are two possibilities:
1) she's REALLY busy..she will contact u..eventually..but right now it's not really a priority, which sucks..
2) yikes..but she might have been using you. u sound like a very dependable, positive, sweet, and caring person. she knows that u were willing to help her when she was in need. she knows that she could talk to u when she had problems finding a job, etc. u took time out and put urself on the line to get her a job, because u thought well of her. but now that she's found a better position... she doesn't even have time to return a phone call??? that's very suspicious.. esp when u've helped her so much in the past!!! she should thank u for all ur help, and allowing her to get work experience, etc. u had to vouch that u trusted this person to get her a job at ur company....so now she's leaving u high and dry when she's at a better position? sounds like she's one of those people who are only there cuz they are down too, but when they get "better", they forget the "little people". even tho u are not little at all!
just forget about it.... leave her be. if she wants to be ur friend, i think u will be there. but don't beg her to change, don't beg her to come back.... she chooses to make u feel neglected, u didnt' do anything wrong. don't blame urself....if u are confident u were a great friend, then u can't change anything. let her come to u.
2006-08-08 09:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is very hard to decipher. Maybe you should try reaching her by email one last time and express how you feel. If not, there is nothing you can do but wait until she comes around. I am not saying this is what happened but sometimes we offend people unaware (maybe like a comment or just something you might do that she is not pleased about). So maybe you might want to find that out too. Or, maybe there is something going on in her life now that she just doesn't feel like sharing with you. Or, if you have another close friend, have that friend call her and see what happens. Good luck!!!
2006-08-08 09:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get busy you know how it is to work and then come home and do chores, shop, and even sleep. i've have a friend since junior high school and sometimes we are so busy we dont even call each other. One time I did not see her for 2 years. But we met up again and started hanging out and catching up on gossip and so on. You cant expect your friend to be there every minute of the day.You have to live your own life also not in the shadows of someone elses.
2006-08-08 09:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it! Ur friend probably hasn't called because they're busy. U've done all u could to let them know u're not mad so don't worry just wait, you'll get in touch soon.
2006-08-08 09:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, This was a one sided friendship,I'm sorry to say. Sometime people just grow apart. It's happen to me too. Just remember, there are allot of people in the world that would love to be your friend.
2006-08-08 09:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she thinks that shes 2 good for u now or she got better friends
2006-08-08 09:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by Kay!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probally got a bf from work
2006-08-08 09:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋