We were never married but I raised my daughter (she's my only daughter and I'm her only father) since she was 1 yr old before she could talk. My mom used to watch kids when I was younger during the summer times so I learned how to handle them. this came in handy and I know I did my part in the molding of this sweet little girl. Can I take her to court with the argument that it is best for the child for a father figure to be in her life. That is the only card I am really holding, does it count for anything? I live in California
2006-08-08 09:30:27 · 11 answers · asked by Joshua J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she's gonna be 8 next month
2006-08-08 09:36:50 · update #1
she knows money is no object to me when it comes to my daughter, she knows i'd have no problem paying support
2006-08-08 09:39:47 · update #2
And Jerry that's my freakin' daughter dude! I'm not like that!
2006-08-08 09:40:30 · update #3
Is there a reason why you never adopted this child? It could be an issue with your ex. I know cause I have the same situation, kind of. I have 2 boys who have known only one man to be their father since the oldest was 3 and youngest was 1. That was 9 years ago. Though my husband stated at first he wanted to adopt, he has since changed his mind obviously by stating one time not too long ago "what do I need my name on a little piece of paper for?" Legally he has no right to them, so if we were to divorce I might just be angry enough to "stick it to him" so to speak for hurting me the way he did by changing his tune.
However much you are willing to pay child support, this obviously doesnt seem to sway the views your ex has on the situation. Is she perhaps in contact with the childs natural father? I'm not too sure what rights you have if any, but I do know that there was a time in CA when grandparents could take someone to court over their rights to visitation regarding their grandchildren in cases of nasty divorces. You could find out from the 800 Legal Aid number in the phone book. Or you could just go to the law library and ask for help there.
I'm very sorry for what you are going through and can only suggest that you try and talk to your ex. I'm sure your daughter misses you and you need to make your ex understand that she is only damaging the girls emotional state by refusing to let you see her. Good luck to you.
2006-08-08 10:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by dizzyd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would need to petition the court. Yes, you can probably convince the judge based on the seven years that you were part of this child's life. It would be better if your X could come into realization on her own though and that you would be able to come to an agreement I live in California, and I have a friend who was in the exact same situation that you are in now, but the mother ended up agreeing to visitation because her son missed my friend so much, that she just ended up giving in.
2006-08-08 09:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this from experience. Even though you may not be the biological father, you may be her phycological father, and that counts more. (well it do in New Jersey) so check it out. There should be more man like you.
Good luck.
technically you have been the only father figure this little girl has known, so go for it.
You can always consult a family counselor.
2006-08-08 09:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I commend you for letting your daughters father see her. My ex spouse won't enable me to confirm our infants in any respect. I havent considered them in 2 years. All because of the fact shes bitter. If I have been you i might tell him the time table could be a primary time table. If he cant p.c.. her up on the scheduled day then he needs to aid you already know properly past to time and then he can wait till the subsequent scheduled day. If he doesnt like it, Oh properly. possibly hell make greater of an attempt to get her while hes meant to if he extremely desires to confirm her.
2016-11-04 03:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only push this if you are willing to pay child support. Otherwise, let it go. If you offered that, she might change her mind. If you want to be a father to this little girl, then it is fair for you to pay child support like any other father. Good Luck.
2006-08-08 09:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, I don't think you have anything to stand on - sorry. Such a sad situation for you to be in. I think it is totally unfair of your ex to dismiss you from the girls life completely, when you have been a major part of it for so long, but that's how some women are. I wish there was something, but I honestly don't think there is anything you can do.
2006-08-08 09:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something tells me that that won't count for anything...however, I would get advice from an attorney or contact the social services agency to see what, if anything you can do legally. Good luck to you!
2006-08-08 09:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you legally adopt her?
Are you paying child support?
If not - my guess would be you have no legal standing
See a family practice attorney but don't hold you breath.
2006-08-08 09:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by roadrunner426440 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you would have to see what the law is in California.. and depending on how old she is now.. it could be an argument... worth checking it out.. .
2006-08-08 09:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though the situation stinks, I doubt you have any legal recourse.
2006-08-08 09:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by Smitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋