Married people! Who here has it the best? Worst?

Question

Can someone please tell me why they have it the best, or the worse in their marriage? Cover money, sex, house, kids, job, sex, family members and inlaws, neigbors, sex, anything that you either have it the best or the worst. I want to know where I am in life, and which way is up or down.

BTW. I'm 23, been married one year, dated her for 8. Made it through highschool, college, new cars, baught a house, both have jobs.

Answer 1

We're a young couple. We'll be married one year this Sept. So no kids yet and no house. We rent. We aren't going try for kids or a house yet, until she's out of college. We both have good jobs and make a decent living. My family adores her, and her family thinks I'm the greatest thing in the world (they're right!). So far things are great. We don't fight, I mean ever.

Answer 2

Someone eles's worst situation in a marriage may be another persons best. So that question is not really one that you should base "where you are in life" on. If you're not able to cope with certain aspects of your marriage, then you need to seek counseling. Some peoples marriages are quite comfortable/livable under certain negative circumstances that you may deem unbearable, or the reverse. Now let's be clear, comfortable or liveable negative circumstance in a marriage doen't necessarily translate to mean those persons are experiencing a healthy marriage, because there are many negative circumstances that can literally over time become the (emotional/physical/spiritual) death of the those involved.

Don't ever compare what's going on with another person marriage then measure it against what you deal with it a terrible because that is a terrible mistake and will eventually drive you crazy and leave you with more questions as to why you're marriage can't be that way or why is it they have that and we don't.... Not Good at all!

Find a good counselor/therapist and take care of your marriage. It will be much better for both of you that way.

Answer 3

Ha! We love each other very much. We share the same faith.

It is a good thing we only see each other for 3hrs per day, otherwise we'd be mortal enemies. He's the most passionate lover (only, not as often as I would like). Fortunately for me, my in laws live far away. Unfortunately for him, my mom lives in town. Even though she only invites us over together like 6 times per year, he never wants to go and makes a big deal out of it! No kids. Middle class income where I'm the bread winner at the moment. One good car. We're 29 and 32. We have 2 roommates. I hate my house. It was a good deal and my mother in law gave us the down payment as a wedding gift. Overall, I'm hanging in there. I think I have it pretty good, the grass always being greener on the other side.

Answer 4

well down is when you are tottaly miserable and depressed, if you have those two, then your going down. and you dont have to have the best to have it good either, i mean the best could mean different things to different people, the best can only be defined as having those things that matter to you most that make you happy, like a husband or wife, kids, not necessarily rich living but to where you are comfortable with what you make. just being gratefull for everyday that you wake up alive, and next to the person that you love. when you love to go to work cause you know you are making a difference in the world, and that your job is what supports your family, that you come home to at night. that i would say is the best!

Answer 5

Everyone has a different marriage. Mine is alright I guess. I have a husband that goes to work 6 days a week . He goes to work and comes right home. He has never hit me or verbally abused me. Our sex life is good when I get it ! But 2 times a month is not good enough for me. If I could change one thing in my marriage it would be the number of times we are intimate. If I could I'd get it everyday !!!!! Take Care

Answer 6

my first marriage was horrible, we lived with his mother, he was mentally and physically abusive..and there were 6 large dogs in the house ( I'm terribly allergic to dogs. ) my second marriage is great..he is loving supportive, kind..the sex is great, as often as i want..money is okay..we work hard..but i take care of the bills so we do better that way..we have 3 beautiful healthy kids..6, 4 and 1 1/2 yrs old..my in-laws live in Portugal..since they don't care for my husband or myself were better that way. we don't get much time together, but the time we do spend, is well spent..we do almost all things as a family. only complaint i ever have is he keeps forgetting to mow the lawn. ( he has almost no house hold responsibilities )

Answer 7

Best in my husband is that he loves me Best is sex but worst is not enough sex.. Best is he is good with my kids .. Worst i have had to adjust to having his kids and i am not a kid person.Best is i do not have to work he takes good care of me..Best is that after being together 3 years he is still the man i want to go to bed with at night and that's saying alot for me since i have a tendency to leave marriages quickly

Answer 8

well, being a nice and good person and giving in, in life is a good key of having much success in life and in your marriage cuz dont forget marriage is a partnership its not only u thats in your life its someone u r gonna be with ur whole life and u r gonna have to give in to things and accept things differntly from the usual way you r use to........ good luck

Answer 9

You shouldn't compare your marriage with others to determine this. How you feel in your heart is the best determination on where you are in life.

Answer 10

do not compare yourself with anyone else...every marriage is different ...u will have ups and downs.. just remember when there are downs, if u just wait it out (like u are bound to do by marriage)..the good times will come around again soon