Anyone have a husband with an ex-wife from hell? What else?

Question

can I do to keep her out of our relationship? She has gone beyond extremes to cause havoc in our marriage. Unfortunately she is using their child as a tool for manipulaing him. After a recent incident where we were forced to call the sheriff's : she was trespassed from the property and can now only stop at the curb to drop off or pick uo their child rather than coming through the house unannounced all hours o f the day and night. Now she's on a rampage making numerous allegations to DCF and harrassing us. She stalks us and shows up everywhere we are. My husband is a mechanic and had continued to make repairs on her car for the safety of the child but came to realize that she intentionally created problems just to stay connected to him and has since atopped working on her car. She is beyond psycho! any suggestions?

Answer 1

#1. she should be charged for every repair done to her car. if you pay your child support, then she can afford her car repairs. she'll stop once she can't pay for the repair and ends up having to pay storage fee and not having a car until it gets paid. yeah, she'll stop real quick!
my husband is also a mechanic with a crazy ex-wife. that's what he did.
if his daughter needed a ride anywhere besides school (bus) HE took her. (we live only about 5 miles from each other)

#2. keep your noses clean. after a while of her complaining they (dcf) will understand what's going on and not play her game. they have real cases to look into.

#3. keep records of EVERYTHING. every time she calls, what she says, what the child says about her and how she (child) acts and reacts and behaves. take notes of words that are used by her.

get full custody and move out of state.

Answer 2

I'd seriously look into getting a restraining order. She can have a friend or other family member do the drop-off/pick-up for visitations and that should eliminate having to see her for anything.

My ex and I ended up having a similar arrangement, just without the restraining order. His girlfriend at the time was a bit odd and had it in her mind that he and I were using his visitation weekends as an excuse to see each other. Uh, no. I broke up with the freak-show-loser for a reason and was NOT wanting to see him any more than absolutely necessary.

We ended up having his sister do the pick-up/drop-off thing and it worked really well. We avoided the drama of his g/f at the time freaking out everytime he was 30 seconds later picking up our daughter than she thought he should be. Such a big surprise that they didn't stay together real long....

Answer 3

Move, send money as court requires and no other contact.

I know there is a lot of stuff out there about "maintaining a relationship with your child" but that is Bull**** when you consider a selfish mother. You can never change that -- maybe someday the courts will but for now SELFISH MOM's win out over RESPONSIBLE DAD's.

Answer 4

I have been going thru the same situation! But all I found out that is best to proctect yourself is to always make a police report. I realize there are situations that do not require the law but always write done the dates and the incident that has taken place! I feel sorry for women that use their children to hang on to the past. But they do it to themselves. Just never appear to be as crazy as her, and always stand your ground! I love his kids but she definatly makes it hard to relax when its our time. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

moving is a good option - 2 hours away is perfect - as a mechanic he is in a good position to get another job quickly.
When you get visitation, trade the child at a police or fire station.
Good Luck

Answer 6

AMEN madeit!
Moving 2 hours away has helped tremendously for us. He still gets the kids on a regualr basis and pays his child support regularly.