me and my ex husband are now back together after a year and a half of being apart. We dated people and had other relationships. Things were great in the beginning and just recently we started fighting alot about alot of stuff.We cant seem to meet common ground. I know i have some issues that i need to work on within me. I seem to run away from my problems and it seem that no matter what I do or where I go It is great for a while an then things just get bad. I just dont know what to do.
2006-08-08 09:07:36 · 13 answers · asked by babydoll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its my fault that we divorced in the 1st place not his. I got married to young and I wasnt ready and I well couldnt stay faithful. I have changed my ways and I dont cheat anymore nor do i want to,. We get into fights because I want to go home to Va and see some of my friends, most of my friends are guys and some of them we dated but found out we are much better as friends and we dont even think of each other in a romantic sence. The friends that I want to go see are the people that helped me out in the hard times and I am realy close to them. Well today my ex husband brought up my track record of cheating again even though I have never even mention anything out that sort to him. He wont let the past be the best and move foward with things.
2006-08-08 09:19:58 · update #1
by the way these friends are not the people that i cheated on him with. These people are friends that i met long after we were split up.
2006-08-08 09:59:22 · update #2
If you take milk out of the fridge and it's sour you leave it there let's say a year and half and take the milk out again it's still gonna be sour... Go there is a reason you split up for the yr and a half and I'm sure it's still there very seldom can anyone actually fix a relationship that has already ended once
2006-08-08 09:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all STOP RUNNING....
Then think about just what U R running from. Haven't U learned by now that U can run from Ur problems but they still WONT go away.
It's good that U admit that U have some unresolved issues that U need to work on. So do just that.
One thing I have found is that writing helps, start a journal. There's just something about putting it down on paper that kinda takes a load off. Then read what U wrote, who knows U may have the answer to alot of Ur own questions inside U it just took U writing them down and confronting them to turn the light bulb on.
Good Luck Sweetie...... We all have problems, but it's how we overcome those problems and rise above that makes us who we are.
2006-08-08 09:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a ex for a reason. I say stop trying to go backwards and go forward. You got a divorce and started to walk now your crawling again trying to find your way with a relationship that was ended by divorce.
Are you looking for the three strikes your out rule like your playing a game no this is your life and stop playing with your feelings and make a decision on whether you want your ex husband or you don't.
If you want to still keep a ex husband around then be prepared for all the pitfalls that come with it .
2006-08-08 09:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's right! If you cheated. He ought to be sceptical, and you have no right to ask him to go through "emotional turmoil" just so you can catch up with your firends. this visit will make him fearful and worry about the past, and if you really love him you will not ask him to go through that kind of heartache, especially after admitting that it was your fault. You are the one who needs to make up for the past, and this is how you need to start. Stop being selfish, and think of how he feels as well. Put the shoe on the other foot. How would you feel if he was asking to go away and visit his female friends that he used to date, and cheated with. You'd probably say, "no way." Your request is completely unreasonable.
2006-08-08 09:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you women and your answers crack me the **** up. there is a reason she is the ex too. dont forget that. maybe she is just as much the problem and instead of running away grow up a little bit. and take the time to figure it out. Half of the problem with marriage is everyone is so quick to run away.also bad advice from others doesnt help.
2006-08-08 09:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by wisdom77 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with all the history that you two have shared...STAY and work it out. The fact that you RUN isn't healthy for your relationship or any other relationship for that matter. I'm sure most people will say go into counseling and I would agree if your relationship is worth keeping. Good luck to you.
2006-08-08 09:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say listen to your heart. If you love him and he loves you. Stay and try to work things out. But dont stay to long give it a month or so and if it doesnt seem to be getting any better I think you should leave. See if he would be interested in getting counseling.
2006-08-08 09:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to go !! I would not waste your time the same things will just keep happening!
2006-08-08 09:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by jdfnv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you just stay, anyways time changes everything right?
Peace
Aldo
Good Luck
2006-08-08 09:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by {~Aldo~} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell were you thinking , you put yourself in a situation, and now you want others to help you out.. also once a jezebel, always a jezebel
2006-08-08 09:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by jon b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋