I love my wife and want us to be together.How can I fix this problem. We have a son together.Plus I don't want a divorce.
2006-08-08 08:43:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i was in the same boat and it took me 3 years of trying to "win" her before i gave up. i moved out the state with our 4 children and now im raising them all. shes in rehab now and is begging to come back.
point: u cant win her, all you will do by trying to convince her is enable her. some pretty harsh answers above me, but most are true: you have to make the call that your son is more important than her...and set yourself to move on. shell come back if you're serious.
email me to chat if u need to.
2006-08-08 09:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 2⤋
Try an intervention with her and your families. Maybe she doesn't get what the whole picture is at this point due to the drugs. Can you move away from the area? Drugs might take her over, some people never come back. You are going to have to get use to the idea of not having her. Focus on your son!
2006-08-08 15:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs can change a person so much. Maybe there's no getting her back at all. You may have to just let her go. A marriage has to involve two people, so I'm sorry if it doesn't work out. Just be a good daddy to your son, and try not to worry too much about your wife. Hopefully, she'll realize what she is about to lose.
2006-08-08 15:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a divorce. Your son deserves to be protected and you can't do that as long as she is a co-parent. You need to do it soon. And, you need to document her drug use and get full custody of the child.
It doesn't mean that you have to abandon her. Once you have take the steps to protect your son, tell her that tell her that y9ou haven't given up on her, but that she has to get clean and stay clean if she wants back in your lives. And, tell her that you're willing to help, but that she has to do it.
2006-08-08 15:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tuff sh!t. What you want is beside the point. Get your son, file for file for divorce and keep him away from her till she straightens up. It's not about you, dude. Sorry but any mother who chooses drugs over her children is a piece of sh!t and has no rights
2006-08-08 15:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to be married to a selfish tramp?
Why do you want a selfish tramp to raise your son?
Why don't you give her CREDIT for her BAD decisions or MORALS and not blame her friends. She did the drugs all on her own.
I had a wife like that, thank god I WANTED a DIVORCE, she earned it and now I go by the tag madeit.
2006-08-08 16:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude get some backbone and move on already. There are like 2 billion women in the world, surely she is not the only one for you. Do yourself and your son a favor and get away from her.
2006-08-08 15:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to refer her to a rehab. Do you ever watch "Intervention"? You might want to get her parents involved for support and convince her to get treatment.
It is so nice to see that you care about her, and yes she needs help, because her mind is so altered right now that she can't make the right choices. Good luck!
2006-08-08 16:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she is liking the drugs! And if you are against them you will have a hard time getting her back until she is ready to stop !!
2006-08-08 16:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by jdfnv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and tell her how much you love her and need her, but you don't want that around you or your child. maybe you could offer her rehab and committ to it with her. put mostly all of your attention on her getting better.
2006-08-08 16:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by amandy245 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋