I have been sleeping with a married man. I recently found out that I am pregnant and he refuses to tell his wife. I believe that she should know but I don't know how to reach her. Any suggestions.
2006-08-08 08:36:37 · 15 answers · asked by BELIEVE IT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I realize that he is scum and that I made a mistake. I am financially secure and can take care of this baby on my own. I don't even want him involved in the child's life. I just somehow feel that she should know.
2006-08-08 08:55:17 · update #1
He doesn't have any children with his wife.
2006-08-08 08:55:54 · update #2
Go to www.zabasearch.com
2006-08-08 08:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Cathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know what to say here. She definitely should know, but can you imagine how devastated she is going to be..not only to find out that you two have been sleeping together, but that you are pregnant with his child?? That's just so sad. I bet he has made you feel really good and told you how awful she is and how great you are. People make those things up sometimes you know. It's no telling what her side of things would be. Anyhow, I would suggest that you make a promise to yourself to change...and figure out why it is that you would want to be with someone who is already taken. Once you have done some deep soul searching, you need to take his wife into consideration and think about how hurt she is going to be...she's probably been cooking his dinners...doing his dirty laundry...and making love with someone who she thought was faithful to her. Now her whole world is going to be turned upside down.
How are the two of you ever going to trust each other if you were to make this a long term relationship?? You will be worried that he will step out on you...and he will be worried that you will find comfort in some other married man.
Just please take her feelings into account when you tell her. I'm sorry if it seems I have come down hard on you...everyone makes mistakes, but this is something you could have stopped...make the choice to stop now.
2006-08-08 08:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleeping with a married man was your first mistake but without a condom?? What were you thinking? Why bring a child into this stupidity? Find your own man and leave other women's husbands alone. I hope when you tell her she slaps the s@*t out of you and him for making her life miserable!
Sorry...just being honest! I watched my sister go thru the same situation except they had kids. He cheated on her and his mistress sent photos of him in her bed. She was devastated and fell into a deep depression. Try not to make the same mistake twice...the damage is already done. Don't kill the child (abortion). Give him the option of helping you take care of it and give him the chance to break the news to his wife.
2006-08-08 09:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you think his wife should know. Did you think of telling her you were sleeping with her husband?
This is the husband's responsibility. Give him some time. Apparently he has no intentions of leaving his wife for you & the baby?
Eventually all of this will come out into the open. There may ee half siblings and medical reasons. You need to worry about him taking care of this baby right now. Do NOT approach his wife, just yet. It will make a bad situation...worse.
2006-08-08 08:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you shouldn't have been with a married man and if he doesn't want to tell his wife it's because he doesn't want their marriage to end........so that means that he was not planning a future with you........why call her.........you are just going to break her heart and hurt their kids........how would you feel if it were reversed........you should however expect support from him which i don't think you will get much of without his wife finding out......its a horrible situtaion. I would hate to be you or the wife......you both are going to get hurt.....the worst case sinerio is that the wife will leave him and he will want nothing to do with you because of it..........good luck on whatever you do........i think the best way to go about it is wait til the baby is born and see what happens and if he is not supporting the baby then i would take him to court for child support..........don't you dare confront her yourself..........let him tell her or she will just find out when she see's the court order..........good luck on whatever you choose to do.
2006-08-08 08:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't. Why do you need to tell her? She is not important in this equation. First off, your lover is a cheater and I wouldn't trust him at all. Secondly, YOU need to worry about what's best for YOU and the baby. If you decide to keep the baby, and you need financial support from the father, you may have to go to court. Third, are you trying to ruin his marriage? If you are, I'd say you've done a pretty good job. You shouldn't have been sleeping with a married man in the first place.
2006-08-08 08:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you should have been more carefull I agree with you that his wife needs to know what a lying scumbag she is married to however you knew what you were doing and if you want to keep the baby i suggest you dont go round i know if i were his wife i would fly at you even though he is in the wrong too what does he say about the baby?
good luck think you may need it!!!!!
2006-08-08 08:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to go! You really know how to screw things up. Basically once she finds out, she is gonna dump him, he will dump you as you are much less fun prego, you will be a single mom raising yet another kid without a father, he will be poor after his soon to be ex-wife takes everything he owns. Great plan!
Oh don't worry, I think he is just as much of a scumbag, but you are right she should know he is a scumbag too. So, just show up one day at his house. But you need to bring two things with you, 1) proof of the affair and 2) friends cause she might just try and kill you.
2006-08-08 08:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does the wife have to do with it it is between you 2 do u think he will leave his wife cause that is not happening if the wife will help him raise the child grow up did u think about this while u were f.....cking himi am a wife thats been cheated on & believe me even thiugh i do my own thing he always comes home the paychecks come to me I control the house all the bitches got was to do my dirty work & some left over semen F,,,,k it deal with it you are hurt so hurt someone else this will bring them closer believe me you were second & that is what you will always be or third whichever
2006-08-08 08:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by CYNDI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know what honey? You are trash. If he wanted to LEAVE his wife, he would TELL his wife. If you do somehow end up with this man, I hope you two get what you deserve, and heaven help your child.
2006-08-08 08:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by working mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why were you sleeping with a married man! but im glad you choose to do the right thing and tell his wife he is a cheater you can go to www.whitepages.com to find the number but i really think you should tell her in person
2006-08-08 08:49:58 · answer #11 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋