my daughter stayed with us,tried to help her she does drugs always says she has spider bites every tom dick and harry calls our house even in the wee hours of the night she left for the wekend had a number of calls I told her I wasn't her answering service had asked her to not have all the guys calling here. she calls me some very ugly names I tried hitting her and just barely did she slaps a assult anf battery charge against me. I had to pay 760.00 for bond. I've never been in trouble with the law I am a good person mom grandma and respected in our neighborhood what do I do. As a mom do you put up with such disrespect from your kids. I was always taught to honor your parents no matter how old you are.
2006-08-08 08:33:43 · 10 answers · asked by snurdy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
kick her out or block her friends numbers and ground her cuz if shes in your house she should follow your rules oh and make her pay rent if she doesnt now plus make her pay you back the 760.00 if she wants to stay in your house!! you sound like a nice person and you dont need or deserve to be treated like this
2006-08-08 08:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad. I would put her in a rehab. She needs help. Theres only so much you can do to help a person and if they dont want to be helped then what more can you do. she is an adult. Being that you're her mom you probably dont want to stop helping her but sometimes hitting rock bottom is what it takes for people to realize they have a problem. With drugs though life could end far more tragically before she even has a chance to want help. You should invite her out for a coffee and let her know that the lifestyule she is leading is very dangerous and you dont want to see anything happen to her. Tell her she needs to change her lifestyle and respect your house more. Tell her if she doesnt feel she can do this for you then you can't do anything more for her.
If she is addicted to hard drugs....where she is going out to get a fix all the time and its a big big drug problem I would have her restrained in your house so you can watch her and put her in your own personal rehab. I did it for my friend who picked up a bad crack habit. Tied her up and made her stay there until she was straight. Watch the movie trainspotting.
2006-08-08 16:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should give her a good ole' *** whoopin' no matter the age you SHOULD ALWAYS respect your parents. and her being the age she is, she should know better. i would have the laws come get her from my home along with her stuff and tell them to take her elsewhere. do not put up with her crap.. you have your life to live and grandchildren around. i would not let all this continue in my home. i would also have my number changed and not give it to her. i know she is your daughter and you want to help her or at least know that she is safe at night when she sleeps but you cannot continue to put up with her due to the fact she is not respecting at all.. i wish you the best of luck. take care of yourself and dont worry about her!
2006-08-08 16:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by funandfaithful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did everything you can, she don't want to listen so change the locks and tell her to go to rehab, it was the best thing that happen to my now i got a real job and a house on my own, it took some time but it work you are the best mom and don't worry about it you are doing right it is her that is out of line. she need help and she needs it know, drop a line and i will help you as much as i can. here is a web site to help you out, sorry,
2006-08-08 15:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by IndyMM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her out. If she's 40, she's old enough to be responsible. But why were you hitting her? I was always taught that nothing, besides self-defense, justifies hitting another person. Anyway, if she's going to act like you describe, she needs to find out just how far acting like that will get her in the long run.
2006-08-08 15:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you want to help you children, but she ain't no child anymore. They have to want to help themselves first. You can only lead them to water, but you can't make'm drink......Kick that *ss out of the house and tell her boyfriends not to call or come over. If necessary, get a restraining order of some type so they won't come around.
2006-08-08 15:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care WHAT name she called you.
If she didn't touch you first, you broke the law when you hit her, period.
But with the way she has been acting, you have the right to have a restraining order placed against her. And change your phone number.
2006-08-08 15:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there , you don't owe her anything, tell her she has 30 days to get out and find her own place, and stick to it, tell her shes welcome to visit but cannot live with you any longer. This is your time, you raised your kids. It will be the hardest thing you'll ever do, but you have to do it. Its called tough love, and it works.
2006-08-08 15:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to tell her she will have to leave your home for good. If that doesn't work, you move out, even if you have to sell the house.
2006-08-08 15:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by MikieB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tuff love. you must sever all ties with this chic until she gives up the drugs. you have got to stop enabling her or she will never get better.
2006-08-08 15:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋