im not sure if i want to get married yet im only 23 i still got alot of life ahead of me how can i tell her no without breaking her heart??
2006-08-08 08:22:10 · 12 answers · asked by da_bomb144 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, it's not exactly the norm for the girl to ask the guy so the fact that she has asked you indicates very strong feelings. I doubt that you could find a way to tell her you're not interested in getting married without her feeling very hurt and rejected and your relationship would probably never be quite the same. On the other hand, I'm certainly not saying to get married if you're not ready just to spare her feelings. Never get married unless you are sure. If you are in love with her and think you may want to marry her but just not now, you could always accept and have a long engagement. You don't have to tie the knot right away. You could be engaged until you are sure and if in the meantime, yours or her feelings change, it can be called off and you were never married. The hurt would come later (or not at all). Maybe it will turn out to be exactly what you both want in the end. Don't jump in if you are not ready but don't rule out the option if you really love her. Best of Luck.
2006-08-08 08:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Super-Mom9 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to be able to find a way to tell her no without hurting her, so get ready for the water-works. I know you love this girl, but be true to yourself before all else - you are NOT ready, so be strong enough and man enough to tell her so. Yes, she will be hurt, but she will thank you in the end, whether or not she can see that now. Better to hurt her now than to get married and having both if hurting 2 years from now.
2006-08-08 09:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly what you told us. If you're not ready to get married, you're just not ready. Don't do it just yet if you're having doubts and you still want to live your own life a little bit. Getting married and divorcing in the next few years over you not being happy is not the way to do it. Just be honest with her, let her know you're in love with her, just not ready for the committment!
2006-08-08 08:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Imthelittlesis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooo...tough one. Ask yourself why you aren't ready to get married. Then ask yourself what being married really means to you. Can you picture yourself married? What would you be like? What would your relationship be like? Then open a discussion with your girlfriend about marriage and what it means to both of you. Find out why she wants to get married (if she'll be honest) and discuss it together. Try to work through it, and good luck!
2006-08-08 08:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you love her and you want to wait. Your too young and still have a lot to accomplish. She will understand. If you do see a future with her tell her, just say not right now. You want to be financially ready and I would say a little older!
2006-08-08 08:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her heart gets broken it's her problem. She has to learn to deal with that just like the rest of us have.
You be smart and say no. Tell her to chill out 'cause you're not ready and if she doesn't like it tuff tit.
2006-08-08 08:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her. Tell her that you want that too-eventually but you are just not ready yet. if she trully loves you she will understand.
2006-08-08 08:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be open and honest with her. If she really loves you, she will be willing to wait until you both are ready.
2006-08-08 08:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how much you love her but your not ready for marriage yet and hey whats the rush
2006-08-08 08:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant!! You need to decide what you are gonna do and just be honest, regardless of whether or not it hurts her!
2006-08-08 08:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋