2006-08-08 08:22:05 · 27 answers · asked by cece 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Dump him now and trudge through the knee deep piles of horse crap sooner rather than later when the crap will be up to your neck.
2006-08-08 08:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by tke999 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are an idiot.
You have continued in a relationship with a man you don't love. You had unprotected sex with a man you don't even love. Then, you got pregnant with the child, the father of whom you do not love.
And now, you have given birth to a child. You don't mention the father as your husband, so I assume the child is illegitimate. Yet another bad thing: the child is born to an unwed mother who does not love the father of the child.
By the way, it doesn't matter how long you've been with this guy. Alll that matters is you let a man you don't even love get you pregnant. That is all that matters now.
Here's the answer: Put the child up for adoption.
There are thousands of LOVING, MARRIED couples in America that are waiting to adopt and infant child.
Your relationship with the father is neither loving, nor married. Therefore, you should let someone else raise the child who is better able to correctly raise the child.
Good luck in life.
2006-08-08 08:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a child and your husband is an adult who is acting like a child. You're first job as your son's mother is to make a safe place in his home for him. A place where he doesn't have to run to his grandmother when his father is around. In theory your son knows this man is his father but in his heart he's just somebody he doesn't particularly like and is afraid of. Your husband needs to back off and be there until his son decides to let him into his life. He's young....it will happen but it'll have to be on his terms. If this situation is hard for your husband he needs to remember he's dealing with someone who's only been living a very short time and after half of his time here there's been a big change. Love is something that's given freely you can't demand it.
2016-03-27 04:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your spouse to seek counseling with you.
Unless your ability to be a decent mother is at stake it is best for everyone if you stay in the marriage.
A good marriage takes work - on both parts - and it is harder today because of society's deal with instant gratification.
You may be experiencing hormonal issues because of the baby's birth. You carried another life inside of your body for 9 months and the chemicals that make you you may not yet have readjusted to not carrying your child.
Talk to your doctor and/or a counselor before doing anything rash. This is not a personal weakness and do not ever believe it is.
(I went through something similar after having my child but x refused to putforth an effort to stay married)
Good luck and remember you are not the only one.
2006-08-08 09:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by stealm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just b/c you have a child together, does not mean you have to stay together. When you fight, and I'm sure you will if you don't love each other, the child will be there to hear it, and believe me from personal experience that is not what your son needs. Leave the father, the sooner, the better.
2006-08-08 08:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by wannabebeachbum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him how you feel. After 6 years it is only fair to be honest with each other. Then you can make your choices however you need to have a plan in place to take care of you and your son before you tell the father.
2006-08-08 08:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by jphillips14140 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not good to stay together just for the childs sake. I realized shortly after the birth of my daughter that I no longer loved her father, and then let it drag out for years in front of her before we divorced. It is better for the child to see two happy parents that are not together, than two miserable parents that are together. How can you expect the child to have healthy relationships themselves otherwise. There is hope, my daughter adores my boyfriend of three years, and he loves her to pieces. We are a very happy family together, and she remembers nothing of the horrible past that included her "sperm donor" father.
2006-08-08 08:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by Olive Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to find a common ground. Stay together for the boy, he needs a father, but you can both agree to live seperate lives, in the same house. Divorce is the wimps way out.
2006-08-08 08:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your Son...You don't have to love the Father to Love your son.
2006-08-08 08:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought of that six years ago, and especially before you decided to bring a child into the world. Shame on you.
2006-08-08 08:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by perfecttiming1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋