In single life you can live to your greatest potential and learn to be alone without being lonely but at the cost of intimacy. The world will benefit much more from your having tied yourself to the many in equanimity rather than the one.
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With someone though you have a sense of belonging you know that something is "wrong" and the lack of trust, freedom, comfort and love is hurting. Is a relationship worth sacrificing too much for? How do YOU strike the balance.
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I place this in the philosophy section because i want to know the choices in light of philosophy as i live my life VERY philosophically and so the answer should-please-contain a strain of philosophic thought.
So-what do YOU think?
2006-08-08 08:13:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Some people are called to single life, just as some people discover that they are called to married life. I've had many single teachers, even when excluding those who are both single and part of a religious order or life, they have found fulfillment in their lives in a different way than being married but they are still active people. But to say that one path or the other is better is not a good way of understanding either. I've heard people in religious life say that their life is as complete as it could ever be, but I know people who are married who could never have found completeness in such a life, it depends on the person.
I'm far from choosing either married or single life at this point, but as I see it the thing to remember is that in single life one does not usually life apart from society. It is important to have friendships and relationships in ones beliefs, which is done in a single person's life by staying in touch with family and one's family's families, by being active in service to the community and by finding people who will be respectful of your choice and the values that you bring with it who you can share common interests and concerns with.
That's my opinion but I'm not an expert on the matter.
2006-08-08 09:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by astronwritingthinkingprayingrnns 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have to choose otherwise. In a single life you are alone. I live a single life right know and I wish for a life with someone who treats me like an equal but is there for me when I need them. Balances can be found in a relationships if two people are alike but after observing many relationships and thinking about their relationships, I came to the conclusion that people choose the opposites of themselves.
2006-08-08 15:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm...intimacy...like walking into a bakery and breathing in the scent of freshly baked bread...something warm, comforting and with the delicious hope that it will be satisfying.
Does one need a relationship to feel intimacy? I think it helps, but this is your journey, and I think your search for intimacy is really a search for meaning behind the meaning. You grasp all of the philosophical concepts quite well, but do you actually feel it flow through your body, aura, spiritual being? Does it move you to breathlessness and tears and vulnerability and a great feeling of overwhelming love...sort of like an orgasm, but more powerful. I think that intimacy can transcend relationships, but relationships (love and sex) can lend great leverage to realizing intimacy.
To me intimacy is the recognition or the realization of beauty in everything. Do you recognize or feel how beautiful it all is?
2006-08-08 19:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe I have grown more in my relationship over the past 11yrs then I would have alone. A priority for my relationship is to continue to grow as individuals and as a couple. Continuous evolution. I believe with the support and motivation from my partner I can achieve things that I would not attempt by myself. I have less fear because I have back-up. I'm sure he feels the same.
2006-08-08 15:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by Brooke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a self- proclaimed philosopher, I believe that lonliness is one aspect of life to be avoided at ANY cost. So, I believe in doing WHATEVER IT TAKES to live a full and meaningful life. And there are ways of going about so without making any sacrifices. The key would be to figure out a loophole to get around making sacrifices.
2006-08-08 21:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It has already been proven that your immune system benefits from being in an intimate relationship, i know..not very philosophical, but it is a part of our human species.
2006-08-08 16:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by Its not me Its u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person. If, having people about distract or make you uncomfortable - be single. But be aware you must first like yourself.
2006-08-08 15:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Sophist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will do either one and justfy it masterfully.
Neither is wrong.
One decides for themselves how much sacrifice is too much, and what do they enjoy more, and what is right. Just as they decide what is more important to them - enjoyment, doing things right or something else entirely.
2006-08-08 21:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships can burden oneself if you seek a philosophical, spiritual path
2006-08-08 15:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by unseen_force_22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being alone breeds selfishness if one does not constantly seek others opinions or try to please them so i feel a person who chooses to be alone is setting themselves up for tunnel vision , so i think that being in a relationship is better ,also i think your view of a relationship is wrong with clear thought and determination a relationship is a catalyst to a broader view of life
2006-08-08 15:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by hi people 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋