We both talk about it and trust that are feelings are true but we are still a little apprehensive.
2006-08-08 08:08:19 · 24 answers · asked by Reco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no "time Iimit" that you should be with someone before you get married. If you both love each other and trust each other, then go for it!! Good Luck
2006-08-08 08:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you were not a little apprehensive, you'd have to be in a coma!
In a month, you have not seen her mad or PMSing or sick, or pissed at her mother, or fired from a job, or hanging out too much with her girlfriends.
She has not seen you drunk or pissed at work,or how you are around children, or what you think about God, or would happen if you were drafted. (yes, It's coming!)
My opinion, you should date a year-and find out about these things. And more.
Then move in together, and see how long that towel lays on the floor or what happens when her cat pees on your term paper. See what happens when you forget to take out the trash or she forgets to take her pill. Find out if your family hates her. Find out if she likes your brother a little too much. Find out who drinks to cover problems and who eats.
Don't get married and THEN do your research.
A month means that you are in heat, and don't want that feeling to ever end. It will. Ask anyone.
It is what you do AFTERWARDS that is love or not.
If you are not educated, in a stable job, and have no money to throw a reception to celebrate with yor families, WAIT!
Otherwise you will be a statistic and your kids will be the real losers..
If this woman is right, she will get more right with time, not less right.
True feelings will stay true for more than a month.
Give your steam time to turn into a solid.
2006-08-08 16:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no certain time that a couple should date before it is okay to get married. However, the longer you spend time with one another, the better you get to know the person. There is always going to be apprehension, no matter how long you date, when you discuss marriage. Just make sure that this is what you both want and you are ready to commit the rest of your lives to make this relationship work.
2006-08-08 15:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the individuals and the strength of the relationship and especially the love. The time of the relationship before engagement does not have anything to do with the length or chances of a happy marriage. One person can date someone for a month and be married together for years and another person can date someone for years then get married and then have a unsuccessful marriage. I feel that it's up to the couple. Follow your heart!!! Good Luck!
2006-08-08 15:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to these goobers. There's no possible way that after only one month of dating that you'll become part of the divorce rate. Rush right into marriage. If you wait, your feelings may change, and then it won't be as fun. Get married. Those feelings of apprehension are just cold feet. Everyone who falls in love after one month and decides to get married get them. It always works out.
2006-08-08 15:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married my husband after only 2 months of knowing each other. we now have a child together and have been married for 3 years. i wouldn't trade it for anything. just follow your heart. you will know when the time is right. if you know that it is what you want to do, then it doesn't matter how long you have been together. you learn new things about your spouse everyday, no matter how long you have been together. so don't let the amount of time you have been dating determine it.
2006-08-08 15:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by amandy245 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DO IT! One month is ridiculous. Live together for about a year minimum. Share real adult responsibilities like laundry, cars, insurance, cooking, cleaning, too see if you can really get along. Allow the head on your shoulders to do the thinking for a change.
2006-08-08 15:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u crazy? she coold be an undercover killer, psyco, gold digger,are just a plain ol' B*t*h. your still in the honeymoon stages of this relationship.wait until reality sets in like bills, cooking cleaning. for all you know she may be a real dirty person DON'T DO IT. give it some time so both of your ugly sides can show ,then decide if you still love her inspite of her faults.
2006-08-08 15:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lonely-n-blu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One month is to soon, I know a couple got married after 3mths, thing were great when dating and after 5mths of marriage. they started to fight.
Take your time to get to know the person, well. Don't rush, only fools rush in to fast.
2006-08-08 15:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by *Cutie* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right do it ! Me and my wife went out for seven months before we got married and now were going on twelve years of marriage .
2006-08-08 15:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋