2006-08-08 07:55:45 · 21 answers · asked by occasional optimist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mr. Chivalry says, "Typically, for some men, it leads to infidelity. So many women have either experienced it, or seen it, and don't want it to take place again, or for the first time."
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-08 08:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine that A wife considers herself his best friend. It all depends on how long the man has been friends with the other individual. Now, If the husband had met someone and then became a friend and was constantly around this person that would be different. Infidelity is an act of unfaithfulness ie., having sexual relations. I don't see anything wrong with having friends. However, I do think that it is walking on thin ice. Some people are out to get more than friendship and usually at times trap someone and fish em..
2006-08-08 08:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be honest, you already know this answer. So, for you to be bold enough to get on here and try to belittle females intelligence shows why they have a problem with your having a CLOSE girl friend. Men have a difficult enough time being faithful without the added temptation (Close girl friends), and without being put in an even harder situation (trying to keep their pants zipped). Then again, it would be hell for a wife to have a CLOSE guy friend, and that's just expected Not to happen as far as husbands are concerned. What's good for the Husband should be good for the Wife, right?
2006-08-08 08:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I guess it's because jerks like me get sucked into a sexual relationship when they get emotionally close to a female. It happened and now my wife and i have split. I love my wife more then anything and she can't bring herself to forgive me and over come how I hurt her. So there you go. Of course it wouldn't happen to every husband, but I think it happens to enough where wives know the chances are higher if you best bud is names Heather. If my wife ever takes me back or I ever start dating again, I will never have a female friend. As it is I will wait until i am an old man for my wife if it would bring me back into her life. Yes, she's that wonderful. So save yourself the heartache, make sure your friends names are things like Jim, Bob, Harry, or whatever.
2006-08-08 08:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys can have close female friends and not cause any marital turmoil. It take an open and honest relationship with your wife. She needs to feel for certain that you would never do anything to hurt her. If she can't feel that way, then you have more problems that who your friends are.
Two of my closests friends are women, I have been best friends with them for over 11+ years. When I met my now wife and began to ge get to know her I let her now up front about my friends. Now she is friends with them as well and I let my female friends now that they just got "demoted", my wife is my best friend today, tomorrow, and always.
So yeah it can work just fine. But you need to make it work. If she doesn't trust you with female freinds, then she doesn't feel that she trust you with women in general. You need to address that. She may have issues... and YOU may be doing thing that are making her feel this way or not allaying her fears.
2006-08-08 08:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by coldfirene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can but you can't have any secrets that you hide from your wife and the girl should be her friend as well...If you gonna have a friend that's a girl you cannot give your wife any suspicion and your wife must have a strong mind that that's just your friend you don't want her and there's no physical attraction no where and your wife has to believe that !! Other wise you can not have a friend that's a girl cause your wife can't take it and you can't either!!!!
2006-08-08 08:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by classy chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not infidelity, it just sets you up for the temptation. Men and women have to respect their spouses and part of that is reassuring them that they do not put themselves in a situation that could be misconstrued. Nobody is strong enough to resist temptation if the situation is right. It is important not to put ourselves into that situation. Sometimes it is not what you do, but what you appear to be doing that can hurt a relationship.
If you are not prepared to respect your spouse's sense of security then you are not ready to get married. If you aren't going to respect your friend's marriage, then you aren't his friend.
2006-08-08 08:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about trust. My husband works with mostly women and they report to him. I tried not to get too upset when they would buy him little gifts or bring him homemade goodies. I knew they were only doing it because he was their boss. Well what an idiot I was! Come to find out 1 woman offered to give him a BJ and 1 woman just showed up at my front door on her freakin bike.
2006-08-08 09:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by LL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is there in your mind. If the friend is ugly your wife won't bother.But she knows that you won't mind a ******** even from an ugly woman. She knows that one fine day you will **** her because women know that other women don't care if the guy is married or not. That is the reason. SO the trick is that don't bother and go ahead
2006-08-08 08:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by fyodr1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married men cant have close girl friends because the wife will have thoughts that their man is with someone else, and somethings you have to weigh out, like if you know that your wife doesnt approve of it, and she gets mad that you are talking to another female work that out quick because she may want to talk to a close male friend to get back @ you.
but, it also depends on the fact that if you knew your female friend longer than your wife.
2006-08-08 08:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by Maryah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋