To keep my wife of only to think of me? Also to keep my kids in line while iam over so they wont be so bad with my wife? This is crazy. Iam going over to be a fire fighter (one year) on a base in Iraq. But will be home for 10 days every 4 mouths.
2006-08-08 07:55:00 · 14 answers · asked by firecoolerman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
**This is coming from a wife of a currently deployed soldier...**
First, as for the kids, talk to them to tell them that routines will continue even though you're gone. Explain to them what's going on, no matter the age. Tell them that you'll only be away for a little while, working, but thinking about them every day. Write to them, send pictures, even record your voice on tape reading stories so they can listen and hear your voice any time. (They will love this so much, as cheesy as it sounds.) Tell them that you understand that they will miss you and you will miss them, but they need to help Mommy out as much as they can. If you have a son, tell him he's gotta be the man of the house while you're away and look after mom. (Works with our son.)
Second, as for your wife, and I'm telling this from honest perspective, talk to her online as much as possible, as phones may not be readily available. Take a lap top if you can - trust me, makes a world of a difference to be able to get online. (worth the expense!) My husband took one and is on pretty much every day while at the camp, versus others have to wait in 2-3 hour lines sometimes. Tell her that you love her and miss her, and talk about things you'll be doing together as a family when you get back. Write to her! Talking online and on the phone is one thing, but getting a letter in the mail.... there's something special about that. And when you DO talk to her, online or over the phone, ALWAYS ask what's going on at home, how SHE is, how the family is doing, how work is, everything. This isn't just for her. It's for you too. It'll make you feel less far away and more connected to keep updated about every little incident, every little story, every tooth lost, everything. It'll help you feel less disconnected to the world you know, and more in tune with your family. And this will help you keep your concentration at work. And it will keep your wife knowing that even though you're thousands of miles apart, that she's on your mind and in your heart. If she knows she's waiting for something good, she'll have no problem waiting for you and loving you all the while.
Good luck!
2006-08-08 08:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by Julianne97 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well brother you need all the help you can get. Let me pray for you:
"God you see Thorny's situation as he has been designated to Iraq. You know the desires of his heart - that his family would be taken care of in his absence. I pray that you would do just that Lord. Look after his wife and children and keep them together in love. Most importantly God protect his life and do not allow any harm to come his way. We know God that nothing is impossible with you God. In Jesus name we pray. Amen!"
Have a safe trip there brother. Hope to hear from you first hand on your experience there. Take care and God bless
2006-08-08 08:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Shadower~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your kids and tell them you have a job to do and explain to them they also, have a job to do while your away.. As for your wife, you can't make someone think of you, I don't care who it is. If she truly loves you that should not be a problem. Just spend some time an evening, to tell her you love her ect. Then, leave a lasting impression with her. She'll most likely think of you. Also, realize this, I'm sure she will think about you when your kids act up!
2006-08-08 08:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 09:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain as much of what you have on your mind to your kids if they are of age, and ask them to say their prayers for God to bring you home safely each time. Let your wife know what your desires are for her while you are away, and most of all BE SAFE, and come back home to them for each of the 4 month tours until it ends. Wish you well, & good luck.
2006-08-08 08:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are doing this voluntarily and are not in the military.....you are one of the most stupid men in the world!!!! What the **** is wrong with you????? Shame on you for leaving the wife and kids while you have become greedy with earning the "big bucks". They kidnap and kill.....then where will your family be? You don't really care about them.....not at all..........because you are selfishly deciding to go to a war zone.....Shame on you.......You make me sick!
2006-08-08 08:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sympathies bro. Keep your head low and your *** lower over there. As for the family situation. Assign the kids duties, the daily responsibility thing. As for the wife you best write or email daily.
I am praying for you bro.
2006-08-08 08:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by The Stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is not the disciplinarian in your family, you need to talk to your children. You need to emphasis their responsibility as a member of the family. Tell them that you are counting on them to be respectful to their mother. Tell them that you expect them to behave as they would when you are there.
Then have a talk with your wife. Tell her that you are proud of her. Tell her how confident you are in her ability to handle things while you are away.
Then spend everyday you can enjoying your family. You'll discover you miss the daily squabbles when you're away.
2006-08-08 08:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your wife. I am sure she will be ok =) Maybe if you have family nearby, you could have someone agree to help her with the kids every now and then. Write often as I'm sure you will. God bless!
2006-08-08 07:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send your wife and kids lots of emails whenever you can. Tell her how wonderful she is and how much you miss her. Tell the kids the same thing and how proud they will make you by minding their mother while you are gone.
And hey.....thanks for your service.....I appreciate you and all the rest of the military personel.. God bless you all.
2006-08-08 08:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jennylee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋