2006-08-08 07:39:09 · 46 answers · asked by froggy moto 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
13 year old children should not be having sex it is a grownup activity. You should NEVER have sex with someone who doesn't like you. When you finally do have sex it should be with someone you love and who loves and respects you. It can be a wonderful experience or it can emotionally scar you for life....it all depends on who its with and when you do it. You are too young to get emotionally scared already.
2006-08-08 07:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your self confidence level is extremely low. If the guy cares nothing about you, then why do it?
If you want to be used and disposed of like an used kleenex go ahead and feel like crap afterwards. There must be at least mutual admiration and chemistry between sex partners, not just this "feeling" thing which is a reflection of how poorly you think of yourself and how disrespectful you are towards your body and y our life.
Wait until you are emotionally prepared and when you decide to go ahead, at least do it armed with information and with protection, that is what sex education is all about.
Talk to your mom about it, this is really not the place to air this kind of question.
By the way...your profile has some interesting questions, all probably a reflection of how little you think of yourself. Maybe you have a gender confusion along the way, somewhere.
Please do stop wasting our time with your lack of self confidence and poor self image. Spend some time building it up for a change.
2006-08-08 07:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Karan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex, especially since you are 13 and you think you know what sex is about but you do not until you have some telling you to have sex with them everyday and then you regret you lost your virginity. Save it for the right man, which should be someone who respects every view you have about having sex.
Also, wait til you are grown because it is guy who will be out there just like you who waited and made the right choice. Get lots of info on sex and then see how you feel. you should be doing more productive things with yourself right now instead of asking questions about sex to strangers.
Good luck
2006-08-08 07:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by toucheandtootise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with him is not going to make him like you,he'll just use you.And if you do it a couple months down the road he'll talk about how easy you were and you'll have wished you dint do it.Being 13 you might want to wait for someone who loves you,not someone who wants to just mess around.I lost my virginity at 14 and the guy avoided me.I also ended up pregnant and lost it.I felt like trash cause he was also my first kiss 1 year bofore that.If I could have taken it bac I would have waited 2 more years cause thats when I met my husband.Just hold off he'll still treat you the same no matter what you do.Be CAREFULL.You might get your heart broke and your fealings hurt.
2006-08-08 07:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO!!! First of all you are way to young to ruin your life. Your first time should be something you will want to remember, eventually you will be older and your children will ask you how you lost your virginity. Do you want to tell them you lost it to somebody that didn't love you? Keep in mind, You CAN'T get it back once its gone! You can't be thinking about the present, think about your future! Trust me from experience you do NOT want to regret your first time. Before you know it you will be 30 yrs old and thinking of how horrible it was and how your entire life changed in that one moment. Once you lose it you will continue to want it, more and more. Boys will use you, your self esteem will plummet, and before you know it you feel like you may as well give up on life.
Then you move on to the physical reprecussions of this. Possible pregnancy, is the least of your worries. I knew a girl who was 14 and found out she was HIV positive, all because she made the wrong decision.
Please I am begging you, do not do this. Wait for that special person, and perfect moment.
2006-08-08 08:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you responsible enough to raise a child for the rest of your life? To work, to cook, to clean, to always be there for your child.
If not then you are not ready to even think about having sex.
If the guy loves you he won't ask you to do that at 13. It will be about lust and not love.
Be a kid. Enjoy the time because it will go by fast and you will have to be responsible for others besides yourself. Get your education. Decide what your goals are and reach for them before you decide to make a poor decision that will change your whole life.
2006-08-08 07:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that u want to have sex with this person because u are really into him but if he is not interested in u when u give it up to him he still is not going to want u and he is going to tell his friends that u are a whore! I have been in the same situation before because of my self estem so I thought that I am never going to get anybody so why not give it up to this boy I like and he will like me back but then I realized that that would only make him use me to get a nut! Listen to this song by Lyfe Jennings its called SEX it will make u understand what I am saying to u!
2006-08-08 07:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by serious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known lots of girls that started having sex when they were young and when i talk them now they feel horrible, they feel like sluts. if you have a baby or get an STD now your life will be over and you will feel very bad for a long time. when you get older you are going to want a good quality man. well we don't want girls with kids or diseases or girls we know slept with a lot of guys. your whole life is ahead of you, the choices you make now will be the difference in the type of man that will marry you in the future
2006-08-08 07:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by onefatwhiteguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid? Why would you want to have sex with someone that you think doesnt like you? Sex is the physical act of love. LOVE..... Dont let the peers pressure you. You have your whole life ahead of you. Dont rush into anyhting that can be life-changing esp. at such a young age!
2006-08-08 07:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by TariJean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at your question and listen to yourself.
You will go through life with much harder questions than this one sweety.
Its best that you start it out with someone who can answer them, and that would be you.
If all these strangers said go for it girl! would you feel o.k. about doing it?
I don't think so.That gut feeling is you telling you what is right.
If it really were right for you, would you even be asking this question?
That you had the sense to ask in the first place should let you know what your heart is telling you.
2006-08-08 08:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋