my girlfriend and i are engaged, but how do i get rid of my jealousy problem. we work together but i just cant see her talking to other guys. how can i quit my foolish deeds? All this jealousy just destroys our love. Help!
2006-08-08 07:29:18 · 13 answers · asked by robthestud2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Where is your jealousy / anger directed... at her or the men?
My husband's ex once tried to "reassure me" that she had "no interest in getting him back". I reassured her that I really wouldn't give a damn if she did, because he was the one I was marrying and the one I had to trust, not her.
Don't get married until you deal with your jealousy issues. Perhaps working in the same place isn't a good idea either.
2006-08-08 07:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can quit the foolishness by thinking about how you'd want her to react when you are speaking to females on a social basis. This is why relationships are a bad idea in the same work location. You are right about things being destroyed if you don't be mature about the matter, and just let her know that you are working on your habit. She will take it in a positive matter if she feels like you can trust HER regardless to the circumstances on the job.
2006-08-08 07:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's a little jealous......but if you are jealous to the point where you act foolishly , then you need only ask yourself one question....Why are you jealous? Most people get jealous for the same reason.....insecurity. We are afraid that someone else will come along who will interest our spouse more than we do. We fear they have something "we don't have". We are afraid to lose the person to someone else. Chances are, this is your problem. If so, then next ask yourself, "why am I afraid of those things?" Is it because you think you're not good enough for her, too short, not smart enough? Or is it HER making you feel that way....does she pay more attention to other men than to you? Is she untrustworthy, therefore giving you good reason not to trust her talking to other men? Is it because she spends more time talking to others and doesn't' make enough time for YOU?
Point is, it's easier to fix your behavior after you find out what's causing it. Being jealous to some extent is okay. It keeps your partner in check, lets them know you care, and that it matters to you what they do. But you can't be psycho about it.
2006-08-08 07:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell yourself that you are the one that she wants to be with and if she didn't, she wouldn't be with you. That is how I got myself over the jealousy I felt when my husband would talk to other women that he knew. Every once in a while when I still feel that little twinge of jealousy, I just remind myself that I am a very attractive woman and he is with me because he loves me. Hope this might help!
2006-08-08 07:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by lilcountrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust that she is only having social conversation with her co-workers. I could understand if she was on-line conversing with total strangers that you may become upset. But fact is that you both work with the same people and I would consider your situation fortunate, as you can see your fiance on a daily basis.
Communicate with her and tell her about your feelings and hopefully she can put these feelings of jealousy to rest.
2006-08-08 07:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all men want sex. if you keep it up with the jealousy, she will not want to have sex with you. -that's the best way I can put it to make a man understand it.
AND.... she only wants to be with you right now, but your insecure fits of jealousy will push her straight into the arms of another man.
STOP IT THIS INSTANT.
2006-08-08 08:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to actually get help....your right jealousy will destroy your love
2006-08-08 07:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling becuz that is an issue that both of u can't discuss on ur own. You will get into an argument and make matters worse.
2006-08-08 07:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by Jersey Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to trust her if you're going to marry her. Just make sure she sticks to some boundaries. It is OK if she is friendly, but not flirting. As long as she is clear that she is with you, don't worry about it. If she agreed to marry you, she only wants you.
Take care.
2006-08-08 07:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 01:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋