This person got in my dresser drawer while I was asleep, stole one of my bankchecks, wrote it out to themselves and tried to cash it.I would never have dreamed that after the close long term relationship that this could happen This person is a lot more financially secure than me, and knew there was no money in the account and that I am in bad financial straits over an illness that cost me my job and I am facing eviction Thank god , my bank would not cash the check!! This person denies even doing it The police said that he told them that I gave him the check and since it did not get cashed and he got to keep the check, there is no proof that I didn,t. I wake up and go to sleep thinkinking of what a cruel thing, and cannot quit crying. Oh, I don,t need to be told to end the relationship.it is definitely over!! The pain won"t go away. i could accept it had it been a stranger.
2006-08-08 07:28:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This person was visiting, does not live with me
2006-08-08 08:24:14 · update #1
sorry, sounds like a horrible situation. but at least you know to always keep your eyes open - just like you did in this case.
2006-08-08 07:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Damaged? yes. Ruined?? Maybe not. Sometimes people's priorities get screwed up in the heat of the moment, even when they don't mean to hurt anyone. People make stupid mistakes and let them get in the way of things and relationships that matter SOOOO much more. Has your friend apologized? Tried to earn back your trust? If so, maybe you should forgive him and accept the fact that he is human. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!!! If he insists on putting himself first and will not fess up to the police, then you should let go of him. Obviously he's not the kind of guy who deserves a friend like you. Maybe he'll realize what he's done as time goes by and beg for your forgiveness. If not, move on with out any hostile feelings or regrets.
2006-08-08 07:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, bet U could, that's the most disgusting thing a friend can do 2 U.
Oh U have a good cry & know there'll never B a repeat of this from him- I hope U've told him where 2 go?
How can U ever trust him again?
I hope U do have other friends who can support U emotionally 4 a lil while?
The pain/shock will ease in time, learn 2 re-build trust in people & cry until U get it all out.
He's been Very Very lucky this time
2006-08-08 07:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your lost. Something like that happened to me. My friends have let me down so many times that I just want to cut the friendship and start a new life. I am about to lose my job, too and I really don't know what I'm gonna do. If I don't get a job soon I will be doomed. I guess that the only way out is joining the army even though I am against war. I owe 2000 dollars on my credit cards and my life really sucks.
2006-08-08 07:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are quite reasonable and normal. This is an awful betrayal. Done by someone close to you, it is even worse.
My guess is that your friend has some sort of problem: drugs, alcohol, or gambling. That's probably why they needed the money.
The bottom line is that you cannot be friends with them unless 1) they admit it, 2) they explain it truthfully, and 3) get help. There's no way to fix the relationship until they do those things. And that's is NOT your fault.
2006-08-08 07:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can learn to accept it despite the fact this is someone you cared for deeply. As a matter of fact, you're gonna have to accept it. As far as you proving he did write the check, you could go to your bank and request they do a signature test. You sign, he signs, BAM! Problem solved, he pays for his actions. I know it must be hard on you...someone you THINK you're close to whom you care about, and thought cared for you, could do such a thing. Praying for him is the best medicine (for you both). You can't hate him for what he did, you can't control others' actions, but wishing nothing but the best for him is the most kind thing you can do....then move on with your life. The sooner you get over it, the sooner you can enjoy what God has blessed you with today. Just be leary from now on, trust noone, and just be happy! I'm sorry you have to go through this, but he wasn't the "friend" you thought, so....oh well, his loss!
2006-08-08 07:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for what happened to you!! what a cruel person!! You need to move on from this "friend" because they seem like a greedy backstabber, not a friend. I'm sure you have other friends. It's time to move on to them now or make new ones. You don't deserve to have a friendship with that evil person. Best of luck, and stay away from that person. They don't deserve to have a friend like you at all.
2006-08-08 07:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by tina18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so whats the question? Anyway, your friend sounds like a real piece of work. Sounds like you dont need to be friends anymore. Have you thought that maybe your friend has an alcohol or drug problem and was desperate for some? Just something to think about.
2006-08-08 07:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by chlobug26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just money,why put yourself through all this you cant change or control others attitudes or actions . that person has to live with themselves you dont have to live with them, put this in the past and move on there are good people out there. Lifes too short.
2006-08-08 07:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a terrible thing for your freind to do..but a word of advice..Do not use this experience to stop you from trusting anyone else..You have to know the when to trust and when to not
2006-08-08 07:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like this happen. Learn from it and grow stronger. There will be other friends. There will also be other betrayals. That is life.
2006-08-08 07:32:40 · answer #11 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋