for all of you who can come up with an answer to anything..
its my last chance to win back my exbf. his excuse is that there is "too much pain between us" and it "hurts too much" (sounds kinda wussy when i type it out haha) ..becuase i would always get mad at him over my own trust issues... i need a specific line to refute this argument adn get him back! WHAT DO I SAY??
STOP WITH THE "HES NOT COMING BACK GET OVER IT" if you're gonna say that then dont answer please.
2006-08-08 07:22:07 · 30 answers · asked by mervelash 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
also he tells me its really not about me.. its his own character, he doesnt think he has the strentgh to keep the relationship. i have changed. and he knows it. he is scared.
2006-08-08 07:32:07 · update #1
the thing that makes me sad is he misses me and still loves me etc but "cant" be with me.
(he told me this and he wouldnt lie. he has been my best friend for the past two years)
2006-08-08 07:33:31 · update #2
Truthfully, it won't matter what you say especially if he doesn't feel as strongly as you do about the relationship. Don't force it. Just say what you have to say about situations without pointing fingers and see where it takes you.
2006-08-08 07:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greetings. If you really want to get him back and stay, you need to meet with him and overcome the "trust" issues. Are you just the jealous type? or does he do things that generate your mis-trust? You must answer this first before you can ever move ahead long term. When you get past this roblem, communcation is the key to everything for this and other relationships in the future. Good luck to you!!
2006-08-08 07:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you will try to trust him more..if he hasnt done anything to lose your trust..it may be YOU that needs to step back and relize that to look at someone of the opposite sex is normal. My wife and I have this issue all the time..but we both relize that the reason we get agrivated is only because we care..think about that and put it together and see if you can come up with something to say. hope it works out...
Oh..and dont call him a wussy...if you cared about im then you would never call him that..its kinda rude
2006-08-08 07:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, tell him "if it were easy, you'd find a way to make it miserable anyhow. do you think relationships are supposed to be easy???? If so, you're living in dreamland because it takes a lot of effort. I cook for you and you take it for granted because it's easy for you; but did you ever think about how much WORK it took for me to make it for you?"
(if you don't cook, think of something you do for him all the time that requires you to put a lot of effort where he doesn't have to do anything)
Guys are naturally lazy so I am sure he's sittin' on his behind "feeling sorry for himself" (which he thinks is "pain")
Then, finish it off by saying, "at least you have the time to feel the pain, I'm always working too hard to be able to experience the so-called pain you feel)
Then, act like you are crying.
My ex used that one on me so many times, our relationship went on for 5 more years until I finally saw the pattern.
2006-08-08 07:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We cannot taste success if we are afraid to lose. So we cannot be happy if we cannot experience pain. Pain is good. We can surely get over it. And then we will have all happiness in this world.
Just rephrase all that I've said in your own words or try to expand it and it will probably work out. Usually men cannot stand such dialogues.
Good luck.
2006-08-08 07:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it just needs some time for him to work out what he wants and what he needs? He isnt saying no he just saying that there is pain and hurt between the two of you. So maybe just sit and talk to him and reassure him that things are gonna be different, believe me anything can be worked through it just takes some time.
2006-08-08 07:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jon and Nichole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're in denial.
You want it to work out. You really do. You hear him say that he's not ready, but you want it to work out. You don't want it to be over. He was so perfect, so right for you and then it was over. AND YOU WANT IT BACK!
There's not a line to say to "get back at him." There's just you and a guy who doesn't want to be with you.
So you can either get a grip with reality and understand that he doesn't want you, or you can continue fighting an impossible battle.
Your choice!
2006-08-08 07:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him ... Look I know things have gone really sour before with us.. but I promise that this time I will work hard with u to make this work. If we both love eachother than theres nothing that we can over come.. and if u just give me a chance to prove to u that we can do thing together .. this time things will work ;-) try that .. it should work lol
2006-08-08 07:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by ladalina1113 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says all that about pain then maybe you should say, "maybe we can heal the pain"? Because if he think it is pain that is breaking you 2 up then come back with a healing line to glue you 2 back together
2006-08-08 07:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't ask someone for what to say, what you're going to say to him should be something that YOU, not anyone else, would say. Tell him how you really feel. If he's not willing to work things out, then you should just find yourself another guy. Don't waste your life waiting for something that's not coming.
2006-08-08 07:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mujareh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋