What is proper Tom and I or me and Tom. I thought the other person was always first. Thanks?

Question

I hear people say me and so and so, I thought you always used the others person first. Thanks

Answer 1

Tom and I is correct. My kindergarten taught me to remember it by thinking if you say Me and Tom it sounds like you are saying Mean Tom and you dont want to call the other person mean so always say the other peson first.

Answer 2

It doesn't matter about who comes first. When the pronoun follows a preposition, is its object, you must use the objective case. For instance, in the sentence "The secret stayed between me and Tom"(or Tom and me)--the me is in the objective case. But if the pronoun is not the object of the verb or preposition, and is the subject of the sentence, use the "I" form--as in "Tom and I danced all night"--you know you wouldn't say "Me danced all night," and you wouldn't say "I and Tom" because it's phonetically more difficult to go from the long I to the soft a. So it's all a matter of "case" which you can look up. See Diane Hacker's site on internet. Just google "Diane Hacker"+ grammar or usage in.

Answer 3

it depends on how much respect you have for the person you speak of. if I respect Tom, "Tom and I went to the store" however if I don't respect Tom I would say it differently. Me and Tom drives me crazy though.

Answer 4

You're right; it's 'Tom and I'.

My College English Tutor told me I had 'perfect grammar' and Dr David Ross [another Tutor] told me that my 'writing was good'. I never heard him giving anyone else a better compliment than that.

Answer 5

Yes, Tom and I, or Tom and me is proper.

Answer 6

Tom and I went to the movies.

That's just between Tom and me.

That's just between you and Tom.

Answer 7

The other person is first.