Last night I was shopping with a friend of mine for decorations for one of her friends birthday. This friend has her children every other week. Her daughter's birthday was yesterday. She spent over $30 on the decorations for her friend then said she didn't have enough money to do anything for her daughter. Her baby girl turned 8 so she still is a baby. She tried to justify this by saying "I've done something for her birthday every year. I think her Daddy should take care of this one!" I started to say something but held it back because I was so mad. Please tell me what you would have said to her. I am still steaming about this.
2006-08-08 06:59:16 · 3 answers · asked by Dovah 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I would have been steamed, too. Your friend sounds immature.
Sounds like your friend needs to get her priorities straight.
Kids don't ask to be born to us, and that little girl needs to be her #1 priority.
I think the buying things for the friend means she is trying to keep her friend "buttered up" to keep the friend providing child care (which makes her a little bit of a user).
May also be trying to impress her a little.
She seems to have a lot of animosity toward the girls father... which is sad for the little girl.
Be nice about it, and try to be understanding, but I would tell her that the little girl needs to feel loved and special at home. The 8 year old is going to get her feelings hurt if her mother does nothing for her, and then does a lot for a friend.
It is up to her mother to try to keep her child from being hurt, not to inflict it. Talk about hammering a child's self esteem!
Also tell her that she can not control what the daddy does, she can only control what she herself does.
And she needs to set a good, mature example of the kind of woman she wants her daughter to be someday by following the golden rule. Good luck :-)
2006-08-08 07:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mary K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really your business to say anything...that would be judging the situation. There is obviously a good reason why this person felt compelled to buy for a friend instead of her own child...what it is escapes me...but that is not the problem. The problem is...her priorities are skewed and only she and her spouse can fix that.
2006-08-08 14:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by jmmevolve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not have said much either, but i would have bought the decorations and a cake and some ice cream to celebrate for the baby girl.
after all, it's not her fault her parents are battling over this..
2006-08-08 14:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋