not able to pay her rent. Now she is in my life, she gets upset when I go out on a date, she is rude to my boyfriend and she tells my daughter she should not like my ex girlfriend. My ex and I are good friends and we are happy in our new lives now, my mom is miserable. I need her out, I have asked when she will be moving in a nice way, I don't want to seem rude, she gets pissed!!! Help...I need my life back......
2006-08-08 06:47:57 · 17 answers · asked by reina l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Explain to you mother that you are grown, she is now living in YOUR house, the roles have changed and it's not HER rules in your home.
Be respectful but talk to her... adult to adult.
Good luck and God bless.... you're gonna need it!!
2006-08-08 06:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by Big-Sister 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oy. I feel for ya. My mom didn't respect my boundaries until I got tough. You'll have to be ready to take the anger and not back down. Give her a deadline. Write her a letter first to get out everything you're feeling (don't deliver the letter - it's just for you). Then practice, rehearse with a friend. Make it concrete, strong, and consistent/non-negotiable. Example: "Mom, I love you and I've been glad to help you, but this isn't working well for either of us anymore. You're not happy, and you're not respecting my rights as an adult, and I think it's time that you leave. Please find another place to live in 60 days, or by ______. " When she argues back or cries or claims you're putting her out on the streets, DON'T back down - recognize this as the manipulation it is - she'll be okay.
You can also tell her that you want you and her to be friends and have a good relationship, and you don't see that happening if you keep living together. Let her know you want to save the relationship, not just punish her.
You might consider doing a bit of research into alternative places for her to live - call city or county senior services, or women's shelters for housing ideas. You can give these to her or even offer to help her find a cheap apartment.
She might 'hate' you for a while, but she will come around and in time your relationship will be better.
God bless and good luck. I'll be hoping things go well.
2006-08-08 06:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to your mom that she really needs to move out as you would like your own space back. She is going to drive you mad some day soon. Also tell her you dont like the way is talk to your boyfriends and your daughter about your ex. Set her straight otherwise she will take over your life.
2006-08-08 06:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, are you sure it's just your mom . . . admit to what you owe.
Second, if your mom is beggin' to share your apartment/house/condo (whatever) you need to tell her to back off. Don't be rude about it. Have a girls (what are you?) night out with the two of you. Get a sitter for your kid. While you're chatting at the pizza place (whatever) just lightly bring up the subject.
2006-08-08 06:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.....it kinda sux to live on your own and have your mom moving in wit you...but its nice of you to help her out....now your relationships to a certain extent are none of her business and really has no right to be telling your daughter who to like and not like....if u want your mom to move out and u dont wana be rude jus tell her how it is...."mom i feel like its time for you to get out there and get your own place." if she asks why just be honest about the situation....shes your mother and will understand where you're coming from good luck
2006-08-08 06:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 03:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by filonuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is taking advantage of you...Tell her she needs to look for another place to live..That you love her but you don't want her spreading all that negative attitude around...She should be grateful but she isn't ...It's your house and your rules ...Tell your mom that you love her but she really needs to find her own place , because the longer she lives with you the more you will come to resent one another
2006-08-08 07:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs to realise that you have your own life and family to tend to.
She cannot get into your personal life and make judgments,especially to your daughter.
If your mother cannot realise the effect she is having on your life then maybe you need to adopt the 'cruel to be kind' approach and tell your mother bluntly that she needs to find her own place
2006-08-08 06:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit your mother down and explain what her actions are doing to you... hurting you... etc. Put her in her place! This is YOUR home and regardless of her being your mother, she needs to treat you with the respect any guest would offer their host!
2006-08-08 06:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,thats what you have to do,to ask her to leave...pls get her away as soon as possible or else shes gonna make your daughter stand against you....explain it to her and spend lot of time with your daughter till your mom is in,dont let her get influenced!!
2006-08-08 06:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋