will I feel differently towards my 2nd child?

Question

I'm preg. w/ my 2nd child my first preg. was so easy and I love my daughter more than anything in this world...but this preg. isn't going so great i'm already getting frustrated...it doesn't seem like I could love someone more than my daughter.

Answer 1

I remember when I was pregnant with my second child, I actually regretted getting pregnant, and felt guilty because I knew that I couldn't love him as much as I love my daughter! I seriously believed that. But the moment that baby is in your arms....its gone, you will have all the same amount of love and just as deep as if they were there just as long as the first one. I have talked to other mom's about this and they have the same testimony. Then when my 3rd came I still felt guilty, because I was making my 2nd child a middle-child. But as with the other, after the child is born those feelings dissapear. And as far as your pregnancy being different, I am a firm believer that the 2nd pregnancy is often the most difficult, so hang in there kiddo.
I love the way the above post says God splits it, but let me say it even better...He multiplies your love times two...no less for the first, and just as much for everyone after. My aunt has 17 children, and I know she love them all equally, their relationships are unique...but the amount of love she has for them is the same.

Answer 2

Rest assured that you will love your second child the same way that you love the first. You may find, however, that you are not as attentive or by the book as you were with your first baby. You should find it a little easier to care for the baby, since you're a little wiser and you also have a little helper, now. Just make sure that you include your daughter in "helping" care for the baby in any way possible to avoid jealousy. (Even if it means that the chore takes a little longer). Use this time to educate your daughter on the responsibilities of motherhood. You're never too young to learn these things! I have two daughters who are three years apart, and they have shared a room for a number of years now. This has helped them to bond easier, and they are the best of friends who stick up for each other whenever possible. They have their moments, mind you, but nothing drastic. They are very close and love each other very much. Good luck!

Answer 3

I had the same fear. But I love my second child as much as my first. You love your first child Soooooo much it doesn't seem possible to love another as much. Apparently this is a very common concern and there is nothing abnormal about having it. The biggest different I noticed between the treatment of my 2 kids is that there are 10 times more pictures of my first child than my second. Hang in there, everything will be fine, I promise! Best of luck~

Answer 4

technically it would be wrong to say yes but realistically i think that you will feel different to your 2nd child. The second time around pregnancy is usually less worrying as you know what to expect and when the baby comes you are less stressed and concerned about every silly little thing. I was in rigid routine with my first and panicked at every thing.With my second i realised he wouldnt break and i calmed down.therefore enjoying it more.I also had no choice after my first and had to go back to work but as my partner left me when i was pregnant with my second i stayed at home after,By that time my daughter had gone to school and i was home all day with my son,ibonded so much better and he became a better natured child. But nevertheless i love both of my children .As mothers we adapt and we just spread our love a little bit further when the second comes along and we get wiser to what motherhood is all about.

Answer 5

truthfully? At first you probably will. Its normal though and it doesn't make you a bad person. My wife and I had two kids one year apart. The first was our daughter, the connection was strong, and so with the second child, a boy, there may have been a little favoritism towards the daughter, she had just been with us longer. My daughter is now 2.5 and my son is 1.5 and we love them both equally. There is no favoritism at all. Don't beat yourself up over this.

Answer 6

You will love your second child just as much. My mother has told me on many occasions when I asked her if she had a favorite, that she loves all of her children equally. She has never had a favorite, she loved us all for different reasons because we are all so different. Once you meet your new baby, I think you will feel differently. Good luck, and congratulations.

Answer 7

Of course you will. Everything that you love about your first child will not change. You'll find certain characteristics from both of them that make you love them the same but in many different ways. And they will both drive you completely nuts.

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take. It is measured by the moments that take our breath away. You will be blessed with many of those moments.

Congratulations.

Answer 8

Don't worry, sweetie. Take it easy. That's crazy hormones talking.

Tell you what. Take your baby girl for a walk in the park today. Have her talk to her little sibling in your belly. Talk to him/her as well. You'll see, things will fall into place.

Don't stay indoors too long when you start having these thoughts. I know you're a rational person, and you'll be a great mom to your 84 kids.

GO, WOMAN!!! For those of us who don't have kids... You are our inspiration!

Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and a smooth and speedy delivery!!!

Answer 9

I felt the same way. Even though you don't think so, you will love this child just as much. It will be a unique individual and you will treasure the differences in your kids.

Answer 10

that is common for some preg woman if you are afraid there will have help like going for counselling or how to handle 2 kids