When we were in high school I hung out with this girl my now wife didnt like. That girl and I kissed and I never told her. My wife and I have been married a year and together 3 years this happened about 3 1/2 yrs ago. I dont want to lose her I love her very much but shes the type to get pissed and hold a gruge for a long time should I tell her the truth?
2006-08-08 06:38:13 · 22 answers · asked by blacktec 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I also forgot to mention that she asked if anything happened between me and her when this happened and I said no, and we were together when this happend.
2006-08-08 07:00:13 · update #1
If you werent with your wife just let it go. Its pointless and not worth bringing it up now. Its been over 3 years right. Just forget about it and move on.
2006-08-08 06:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid or just pretending to be? You are married...you have "peace in the valley", ... you had kissed a girl three years ago....and you want to tell your wife for what reason? to cleanse you soul? go to a priest or anybody other than your wife. The first rule is, "Women will forgive...but never ever forget" . DOn't have you new wife log her first of your offenses into the "court of feminine feelings". YOu will generate many of these offenses without any trouble in years to come.
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Good Luck
2006-08-08 14:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait - this is just a kiss, right? Happened 3 1/2 years ago? Before you were even with your now-wife? Drop it. Ancient history. She can't hold a grudge if you don't bring it up.
2006-08-08 13:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by wyo_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need, it's ancient history. Besides, it happened before you and your wife even started dating, so it's not like you cheated or anything.
I don't see how she could ever be mad at you for this because it happened before you and she hooked up. Unless she asked you before and you lied about it at that time??
If she ever asks you outright, don't lie about it. Just say that, Yes, you kissed once but it was no big deal. But I really don't see a need to bring it up unless she does.
2006-08-08 13:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would it improve about your relationship? Sometimes an urge to be completely honest isn't always the best thing to follow through on.
If it comes up, be honest about it but don't bring it up. Most women suspect there's more to a story if a man brings up a bit of his past and then tries to down-play it.
2006-08-08 13:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by cr329 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look let it go. Just do not go down that road again. What are you going to accomplish by telling her about something that happened before you were married? Absolutely nothing. Let it go and act as though it never happened, and do not ever go down that road again. Stay away from that temptation.
2006-08-08 13:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kissed this girl BEFORE you even started dating your wife. No need to tell her. Just let it go and move on - don't create drama where you don't want it.
2006-08-08 13:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey did you think to tell her about that time when you were 14, alone in the bathroom too?....Get Real and act like a man.
2006-08-08 13:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no don't tell her. Why open that can of worms? All this would do is hurt her and for what reason? To make you feel better? move on and forget it or I feel sure that you will regret it.
2006-08-08 13:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happened before you were with your wife, why do you feel the need to tell her. If she asks, tell her, don't lie, but if she doesn't ask, I wouldn't tell.
2006-08-08 13:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋