a lot of help for a broken heart?

Question

ok, so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 3 months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in less then a month and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. I just feel like noone would want to date me. I should just be patient, 3 months isn't really that long of a time right? Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? What should I do?

Answer 1

Well, if he gave you a valid reason for the break-up: possessiveness, maybe you should take that into consideration. Evaluate how you behaved while with him--did you call him constantly, or act untrusting of him, asking where he is or who he's with all the time? Maybe that pushed him away from you. Or maybe it's just him and he's not ready to commit. Either way, he's not the guy for you. You're still young, don't waste your time pining away for him. You will move on, but for now, it's best for you to enjoy single life--hang out with your girls, and just forget about guys for a while. When you act happy in your own skin, guys will notice, and you will have more guys that you can choose from!

Answer 2

2yrs is a long time for teens these days.. i can see why you are feeling so down. though it may sound kind of blah, think about this... who ever dates him will only be getting your left overs and... what ever he knows and does he will always have you to thank for that..
first it is hard to move on after a 2yr relationship and 3months is a short time to recover. but.... remember he did the dumping here. whatever you do when you go back to school, do not look or act desperate over him. you will only give him all the more power over you. when you see him smile and keep walking.
by smiling you show him that you are the bigger person, that there are no hard feelings (even if there are).. don't stop to talk to him, unless he stops you...
you need to act like you are ok about this. even when your heart is breaking inside.. look happy, make new friends, and tell the old ones that you dont want to discuss him.. discussing him only sparks the flames and will set you back.
now, the new chick.. it doesnt matter if she is a rebound or whatever she is to him. its not your business. he has made a decision about the two of you.. thats your business. love and respect yourself and the other (possibly better ) guys will see how great you are!! be strong for yourself and your sanity!
good luck.

Answer 3

First of all, you are young! The main thing to focus on at this point in your life is learning who you are as an individual, and that means getting to know yourself. You as you, not you as someone's girlfriend. Find your own identity. Don't let some guy define you.

Second, you were in love with him, and you have not been apart too long. You need to let yourself heal from the breakup. Just remember that life goes on, and you will survive and be happy in your life. You are a worthwhile person.

If he started dating someone so young, so soon, he is not the one for you. If you see him, just act like he is any other person. Do not get back together with him.

Look forward to this new school year as a time to make new friends and get to know yourself. You are worth liking, loving, and dating, and do not think no one will want to date you. But don't get too serious with anyone just now or it will be a rebound thing.

Have faith, and look forward. You will do great. ;-)

Answer 4

Time heals the heart. If he has decided to break it off, you can do nothing but accept it. Its one of the hardest challenges we face when we choose to date. This is a life lesson that will continue until you find the right person. The only issue that needs to be address is to reflect on the good of the relationship and the bad.

This isn't a time for petty party but to understand what you need out of a relationship. What makes you happy and what are your short comings, to overcome for Mr. Right. Trust me, I'm much older than you, and yet our plight is the same.

I'm also dealing with running into my ex. I did last Friday night. The only thing you can do is be a friend and nothing less. To be angry and frustrated is selling yourself short. At this point he doesn't deserve you. Move on, and upgrade yourself. Smile from the inside out.

Answer 5

look lifes to short to spend too much time on one part of reality, and in the process miss oout the big picture. remember in any relationship time, patience, respect are all major ingedrients. Also space is needed too. If he thinks u r posessive then look within and try to find out why he said so.Finall love cannot be created or orchastrated or planned, it just happens like that in a second a snap, so believe inthe saying if u love somebody set him free if he is really yours he will come back to you. As for school just be yourself and just follow your heart it seldom lies. Cheer up, Dudette, Cherio

Answer 6

I know how you fell i've been through it. only thing was that i broke up with him. He was my first love of 6 years since second grade. i learned how to get over him and if he really wants you back he will apologize and take you back. But don't waste your time you can do better than him!! And i think the realationship he's having with that girl is a rebound.

Answer 7

Trust me guys do not like possessiveness. I liked this guy, and I wanted him all to myself. I wanted to talk to him all the time, be with him all the time. But, that just made him go further away from me. I let up alot, I mean alot and now he chases me! ♥ I think it is because I stopped showing alot of interest in him, and he thought he might loose me.

But, You are young yet. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Go fishing and have fun!

Answer 8

Why do guys do that stuff? I did too so I'm no stranger. I have no idea what I was thinking either. Don't take it personal, it's not you it's him.
You can wait for him if you want but I wouldn't. Just take it day by day... the guys will all come out of the woodwork one day. Be true to yourself kiddo.

Answer 9

rip up all your pics of him and treat your self to a day of pampering that's what i did he cheated on me on our first date
rebound no doubt about usually if the new girl is that much younger its a little rare if they work out

Answer 10

I think that the best way to forget him is to befriend with him again... the more u want to ignore him, the more hurtful u will suffer.