Do you think its good to be friends with your ex?

Answer 1

If you gave yourself time after the relationship ended to get over him, yeah. I gave myself an entire year of avoiding my ex and we just started talking again and are friends now, 3 weeks ago. It CAN work if you give it time. There was no way I could've pulled off being his friend a year ago though. I was too pissed and in love with him all in one...not that great a combo.

Answer 2

Sure, it can be. I've made it a habit to remain friends with all my X's (though I don't have that many) I've always taken the attitude, what won't work - should work!

This can be difficult if the relationship was horrible and/or unbearable. (but which relationship isn't? - come on - in the 'end' isn't that why we all break up?)

In my personal experience, breaking up was difficult, because what I found I missed most was the continual companionship that the relationship created. In the beginning, everything was roses & wonderful. Life goes on, and eventually a few of the thorns start hurting when you grab the rose the wrong way. We see things differently, and yet, were no longer communicating to each other. Instead we so rudely place our friends in the middle of our plight. In our blind anger, we end up alienating many of our friends, who just want to get out of our way (have you never had a friend experiencing a break-up where all they could do is 'whine' about their problem?)

After all these years, throughout changes in my few lasting relationships, I've learned and adopted one motto which really helped me to salvage a 'friendship' out of a relationship and that is ~ I'M MUCH TOO YOUNG TO BE BITTER ! Say it to yourself, and remind your X of the same thing. Chances are, you will learn to become supportive to each other and just as friends.

Good luck, with your decision.

Answer 3

My first BF was my best friend since we were 9 and then at 16 we started going out at 21 we broke up and have stayed friends even to this day he asks my opinion on his love life and things like that we are still very close friends.
My last BF on the other hand is a waste of space and I wouldn't cross the street to piss on him if he was on fire!

Answer 4

maybe maybe not... well for some it might be a torture talking or friending with a person you once had a relationship with..and broke it due to some reason... but fro soem it is okay cause teh person is too precious to let go forever... soem one who knows you through and through.... one may not want to have any relationship with a person who has broken your heart unless it did not mean anything and was just a stupid useless fling...
all one needs to think is that would one be able to be as normal as one is around the ex... if no than i dont think one can continue the friendship...
take care..

Answer 5

yea its ok to be friends with them as long as you both or over eachother
if ur not over eachother and still have feelings for eacjhother then it will be kinda hard cuz if the other person goes out with somebody else it'll make the other jealous and stuff
also being friends with ur ex can make it seem like theres a competition between u two. u kno wat i mean? like who can find somebody else to go wit faster, whose partner is the best, u both will try to make it seem like ur partner was better than ur ex

but if ur totally over eachother it is a really goos friendship cuz since u two were close already in a previous relationship, u can always turn to this person in a time of need and u can tell them anything

Answer 6

Depends on the ex. Sometimes they make a better friend than they do a spouse.

Answer 7

If there are children involved, most definately.

You don't have to be best buddies, but treating each other with respect will benefit the children.

Other than that, there really isn't a reason, unless you just want to be friends. You do need to comsider how your next partner might feel about it.

Answer 8

nope.

that being said..it's ok to have no hard feelings, no hate, and be acquaintances...but no good is going to come from being close, still talking to eachother alot, depending on eachother to talk, etc...because u had an intimate relationship, but u broke up for a reason. sometimes when u get lonely, u end up missing that person, but not cuz u necessarily want them back, but cuz ur lonely. that leads to using ur ex.. not in a bad intention way, but still it's not healthy. u want to be careful, and not fall back into ex territory. u don't want to use them, and u don't want to be used by them. therefore, try not to be too close. my ex and i are on good terms, but i have an new bf now and sometimes he still calls..i know it's cuz he misses me and is lonely, but it's not going to be good for him, or for me, because i DO still care about him. i just know we weren't rigth for eachother.. he needs to find other friends and other people to depend on now... and to help him do that, i can't keep trying to 'be his close friend.' i have to let him go.....

Answer 9

It's nice to be on good terms, but I wouldn't hang out with any of my ex's.

Answer 10

No they are an ex for one reason or another