My husband and I were seperated for 1 1/2 month, but we got back together and everything was going fine. Couple of months now Im feeling like if something is missing. I mean i love to be with him, hes affectionate and treats me great, we have great sex but i still feel like I need something more. I havent forgotten what he did but im trying. I think I love him but its not the same way I did before, but then sometimes I think that we should go our own ways and be be seperated or have some time alone to think about what we really feel for eachother, but I cant do it. Do you think that I feel this way because i cant forget him or because those are my true feelings deep down inside? Please I cant take it anymore!!!
2006-08-08 06:13:14 · 15 answers · asked by deva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe it's called resentment. You still remember what he did and it kinda pulls you back. You haven't forgiven him completely. You still have it in your mind. You should try to forget and forgive him if you still love him. I would say, people make mistakes all the time. Depends on how big of a mistake he made. But if there's love, there's hope. I think that from your side you've done enough. Actually he should be the one trying harder to make the relationship the way it was before he did it. He should pamper you and show you that he is really sorry. That it was truly a mistake and that it will not happen again. And time will heal the pain. Love and care will definitely help too.
2006-08-08 06:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously still love him because you chose to reconcile things. It's hard to just "move" on quickly and forget something happened. My best advice to you is to take it day by day. Focus on strenghtening your relationship. Create new memories. Maybe take some time and go away with him. Somewhere exciting and fun where you can both forget about the element back home. Time is the only thing that can heal wounds.
Good luck w/ everything!
2006-08-08 13:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by cinnamon_latin_doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is your trying to forget what he did instead of just forgiving him. Move past those things that are history so you can have a future. Everyday isn't going to be perfect, a lot of them may seem like you need to just move on, but the grass isn't always greener on the other side. However, whatever it is that's bothering you deep down you need to let it go or it will always put a strain on not just your marriage, but you life as a whole.
2006-08-08 13:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're feeling like that because deep inside you cannot forget about what he did, I went through an event like that and it's hard, but I got over it because I begun thinking of all his good qualities and not his mistakes, I mean we're human, we aren't perfect! We all make stupid mistakes, now, if you really feel that you want to go on with your life because you know you aren't going to forgive him and you're not going to ever feel the same way for him then I suggest you leave him and proceed with your life. Best of Luck! ~V.J.~
2006-08-08 13:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very young, got married too early, and have very unreal expectations of marriage. This ain't Hollywood. I dont' care what he did, you went back to him and that means you forgave and forgot...if you didn't do this, then get the hell away from him so he can find someone who loves him. He may have screwed up, but you took him back. Now what do you want to do ? Punish him for the rest of his life? Grow up, get real, get out if you must, but for his sake, make up your mind.
2006-08-08 13:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your husband need to find a good marriage counselor. Speaking honestly about your true feelings with an uninvolved party can help a lot.
2006-08-08 13:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds to me like ur marriage is based on feelings and when they ar not strong anymore there needs to be separation. u guys need to talk ask questions such as are u happy and this is missing what r we going to do about it. also sounds like he cheated, darling people only cheat when something is missing so they stray to find it. its now up to you to find out what you r not doing. be a lady in the parlour, a chef in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom for your man.
2006-08-08 13:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by sensible 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start again...You need to forget what he did as though it neverhappened...You took him back so give him the courtesy to have you believe in him again.....He is part of this also..Your feelings aren't the only ones here....Ask your husband to help you forget......
You need to grow up..Yes he made a mistake , but that is in the past and you need to start over
TRUST without it you have nothing
2006-08-08 13:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be able to forgive but you can't forget. A woman has a long memory. it will be with you forever. When he is working late or doesn't call or goes out with friends. It willl be there.
2006-08-08 13:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your fighting a losing battle let me guess he cheated u will never forget it and nothing will ever be the same move on with your life i know its hard but u have to do it for yourself u deserve to be happy
2006-08-08 14:13:34 · answer #10 · answered by heather f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋