My fiancee has been denied the right to see her grandchildren since her daughter dislikes me; what to do ??

Question

Her cousin has influenced her daughter by her controlling nature of people; this cousin has two sons in jail and a third just left his live-in girlfriene 3 weeks before she delivered their baby and does not visit her own 8 grandchildren. How to deal with this socialpath ?

Answer 1

3rd parent adoption was set up for cases like this. Even if the biological parents do not want your fiance' involved, there are legal ways to gain visitation. Also, as hard as it is, you have to be positive about her family. Even the ones you dislike. Being vocally negative about them becomes a habit and you don't want the kids to hear you when they do get to visit. Another option is supervised visitation, aka your fiance' meets them at McDonald's (without you), and plays with the children there. It's not much, it's a start.

Answer 2

That sounds like a messed up family. If you plan on marrying into it, get use to this type of drama. Sounds like everyone has dysfunctional relationships. Why would your fiance's daughter be so disrespectful towards her own mother? What have you done that makes her dislike you so much?
Sorry, I don't have any other advice than to learn to live with it. Hopefully they will settle down in time... or maybe your fiance can make arrangements with her daughter to visit her grandchildren alone (meaning you stay home). Your fiance's daughter has the right and responsibility to choose which people are allowed around her children. However, the children shouldn't be denied the right to see their grandma just because of a family squabble and spitefulness.

Answer 3

The cousin's issues seem irrelevant to the question. So your fiancee's daughter won't let her see the grandchildren as long as your fiancee is associated with you. correct?

If that's the case, and your fiancee's daughter has full custody of the children, then there isn't much you can do from the legal standpoint. You can try asking the daughter to meet with you via a conflict mediator, but it's her choice to allow or to refuse.

Do the grandchildren in question have a father? Does he share custody? What's his opinion? Because if he shares custody, he has as much say in who gets to see the kids as the mother does, and perhaps he would be more understanding.

Answer 4

Well, if your fiancee wants to see her grandkids, I'm sorry to say, that she'll have to play nice and choose them over you. That's the way it goes, sadly for you.

If you are the love of her life, and giving you up won't make a difference in her seeing the kids, you'll be together.

Either way, be supportive. You sound like a great guy.

Answer 5

Perhaps you should be wondering why or how your fiance managed to raise a person who has such a weak mind, no spine and is manipulated so easily.

There is a whole lot more to this story than you know about.

Answer 6

I know in CA that grandparents don't have any rights, but I'm unaware of other state's laws.

Are you sure you want to be legally involved with such a 'lively' family?

Answer 7

Grandparents have no rights! If she really wants to see the kids she should make a deal that she will come see them w/out you.

Answer 8

Talk to a lawyer, but historically. Grandparents don't do well in courts over parental rights, unless you can show a pattern of abuse.

Answer 9

There must be a reason they don't like you. You fiance should just sit back and wait for things to calm down. You need to stay out of it... it's between the two of them.

Answer 10

hi
let it be it not ur business its up to your fiances daughter to prove if she loves her mother more than that ***** of a cousin, let them work it out and it will also prove the level of love u and ur fiancee have. u have a relationship with your future wife and not her family dont let them suck u in their disgusting type of life if u want to be happy.