How do you break up?

Question

how do you break up with someone who is your fiance and a father to your 2 month old daughter?

coz i know he is not the "ONE" for me. i dont want to spend the rest of my life knowing i married the "wrong" guy.

oh my feelings has nothing to do with any postnatal blues or maybe even depression.

Answer 1

Just tell him like you just said say i'm sorry but i don't think you're the one for me and if you love him tell him you always will.And it's better if you both move on with your lives and find the right one

Answer 2

Tell him that you to need to take a break. You need some space because right now your unsure about getting married. Of course he'll want to know where all this is coming from so you must have all your reasons readily available to explain to him why you feel like this. Assure him that he is and will always be one of the most important people in your daughter's life and what's going on between the two of you right now should not impact his relationship with his daughter. Don't think that you are a bad mother because you don't want to be with the father of your child. Things change and even more so after a baby. Just make sure that you don't interfere with him being a father to his child because that would be unfair to him and more importantly your daughter. You might want to try couples counseling before you actually kick him to the curb so when your daughter gets of age and asks why you and her father aren't together you can honestly say that you tried everything but you two weren't meant to be.

Answer 3

well obviously u have a gud reason or u wouldn't be wanting to break up! the only way to do this is by talking, get someone to look after ur baby and spend a nite alone together talk thru ur problems and if u still feel u cant stay 2gether u need to tell him b honest and sensitive, if u cant find the words why not write ur feelings down in a letter, r u sure ur OK postnatally? things always seem alot worse after having a baby, if u need advice email me, good luck and follow ur heart.

Answer 4

Considering that you've accepted a marriage proposal and borne a child, you should probably express your concerns that you've made a mistake. Talk to a couples therapist and at least try to find out if you really don't want to be with this person or if it's simply a matter of cold feet.

Plenty of people break up because it's occured to them that the person they're with might not be the right one. And plenty of THOSE people have discovered, too late sometimes, that they were simply overwhelmed by the prospect of making their committment "official."

Answer 5

if you do, you are very unfair 2 your daughter! you should of thought about this before having her. but if you seriously need to get out of the relationoship then either talk 2 him and ask him 2 fix things or sit him down and explain that you are leaving

Answer 6

You don't without a real good reason.
You liked him enough to create another person with him and to say "yes" to a marriage proposal... why end it after going through having a child together?

Answer 7

tell him it will not work out and allow him to visit the child on weekends

Answer 8

You dont unless you have a damn good reason to. What is the reason?