Words of encouragement?

Question

Married 19 year old female fell pregnant within first month of trying found out at six weeks its ectopic had surgery last week docters saved my tube so i still have too feeling down and hopeing youll cheer me up.Been told to wait 3 months bfore trying again o heres to hopeing

Answer 1

Women who had ectopic pregnancies go on to have healthy pregnancies afterwards. You are still young, your risk for another ectopic pregnancy is relatively low. Besides, you have lots of years ahead of you, so cheer up - you are going to have as many babies as you want. Also, you still have both of your tubes, you are lucky you didn't lose one, so there is of course a huge possibility that you can get pregnant right away. Don't ever lose hope. Some women have more problems and health complications than you and they still got to deliver healthy babies.

I watched a show on TV once about this mom- she had cancer, and she was pregnant with her second daughter. She went through chemotherapy, all sorts of meds for her cancer, and topple that with extreme nausea and fatigue, she was definitely having a hard time. But she said that she didn't want to give up hope, she wanted to have the baby - eventhough she knew she would probably not live long enough to see her second baby turn 1. I loved her spirit and her love - she said that she shouldn't complain or be sad because she felt blessed to have one lovely daughter, another on the way, and her wonderful husband - she said she was living life to the fullest everyday. She gave birth to a beautiful little girl. Not too long after that she was gone. I know it sounds a little bit depressing, but I think that we can all learn a lesson from that young mom's story - never give up hope, live your life with happiness and love. It also taught me that some people have it worse than me and yet they stil manage to go through life with hopes in their hearts and smiles on their faces. And we should do the same. =)

So cheers to you!

Answer 2

How long have you been married? Reason I am asking is because to me, 19 is still pretty young to consider parenthood.

Marriage isn't only to produce children. It's to have love and companionship. At 19, wouldn't it make sense to do some other things first: travel, sample different jobs, go out with friends, etc.

There is so much time left to become parents; why the big hurry? At 19, you really aren't even that long out of "childhood," and even 'tho you may think you're very mature, having a child puts a huge strain on any marriage and requires enormous amounts of patience and sacrifice not to mention money!!

I am very sorry you had an ectopic pregnancy. Maybe I'm not telling you what you want to hear, but I answered another girl's question about being 19 and parenthood and she and her fiance saw a lot of truth/wisdom in my answer.

Answer 3

I think 19 is a fine age to get pregnant. I was pregnant with my first at 19 and I would never take it back. I would wait for a few months to let your body heal before TTC again. You lessen your chances of another failer if so. Also, see the doctor about some things he can do for you. There is nedication that can help you along with your process. Good luck to you. I just had a miscarriage this weekend and I was 5 weeks along. I feel your pain =(

Answer 4

So sorry. Allow yourself to feel sorrow and grieve if you need to. Carefully decide which friends or relatives to share this with - sometimes folks can make thoughtless comments that hurt. Be gentle with yourself and your husband - cuddle together, cry together, and find hope together. It is not unusual to feel sad for a long while - or to have times later when you'll remember and feel sad. It's wonderful news that your tube was saved and the doctor has encouraged you to try again in a few months. Meanwhile, enjoy some one on one time with your husband - when you do get your bundle of happiness, you'll be too tired!

Answer 5

Right now you are dealing with the pregnancy hormones that are still in your system...give yourself time to deal with what happened, make sure you talk to your husband about it so that y'all can grieve together. Also, try to get back into your daily routine and continue on with life. I would listen to the doc and wait the 3 months so that your body recovers properly and you heal. The best of luck!

Answer 6

i know how you fell, ppl keep finding out that i just lost my baby, and they proceed in telling me there problem and who they know that had a miscarage. well, a part of me does not want to hear that. But i guess to know that it does happen and it was not just me.....
All i can say what has helped me is tryen to stay busy, and putting it all in the Lords hands. When the time is rite this next time hopefully i pray that the Lord will bless us with a beautiful healthy baby. Just put all your faith in the Lord. He knowes what is best. Good Luck and i will be say a prayer for yall.

Answer 7

hey honey...at 16 my aunty had an eptopic...only she lost her tube. and she has too beautiful girls. i think its wonderful that you and your husband want children...by the way im 18 and married and due on monday with my first child....a boy!!!