I'm gay. I feel so inferior and am suffering from a complex. Please help?

Question

I don't know but I just have this nagging feeling that I am not normal and that death is my ultimate end. It's just such a bad feeling. Sometimes, I just feel like breaking down and locking myself. I feel very inferior. To add to that, I was sexually molested by my brother when I was really young, about 5-6. The memory of which I am aware of, but I think my brother thinks that I've forgotten about this and he treats me with no respect, always calling me 'gay' and 'eunuch' in any opportunity he can find, while I know he himself is gay for he molested me. Do I remind him that I know about his real orientation? My sexual orientation, is not confirmed by me. In other words, I haven't really told anyone I'm gay.

I would like to thank all of you for your extremely wonderful answers. You guys don't know how much I appreciate it. Thanks a lot!

Answer 1

OK, listen to me good! You are God's chosen people. He selects only 10 % of the total population to be gay. He blesses us with above average looks, intelligence, drive, incentive, and the ability to get a really good education. He gives us a great joy of living. God smiles down on Gays as his few. Straights spend an inordinant amount of time it telling us we are "defective," "sick," "sinful," and "evil." They do this because they know, inherently, they were NOT chosen to be elite. They do their best to knock us down, hurt us, whatever, all in the name of their god...and their god has nothing to do with the real GOD...God is love, understanding, peace, and harmony. The god that straights talk about has nothing to do with this God, that is for sure. WE generally have better bodies, better jobs, more money, better houses, better cars, and in fact, better everything...IF you were straight, you would be jealous too! NOW, use what God has given you, know that you are above average, know that all you hear form straights is lies, and go from there. YOU are better than 90% of the population. To waste that gift is the real sin. I wish you the very best of luck, but stop listening to the bull sh*t being handed out to you..if you let it get to you, the bad guys have won! The best revenge is success! The straights can lie in their hovel of a mess of a home, drive rusted out pickup trucks, have beer guts to the floor with beer bottles growing out of their mouths. Their only tool is to scream "Bible," and it rings hollow, for they break all the ten commandments with great regularity. They molest children, the rape women, the beat their wives....tell me who are the sinners! NOW get your butt off the couch, hold your head up and be the person God has chosen to represent true love, peace, and harmony. Good luck

Answer 2

I don't feel inferior but I do feel "different" in certain social situations. However, when I am in a comfortable environment where gays are embraced then I feel like a totally fulfilled normal person, not inferior at all. The most inferior I ever felt was when I was trying to play straight, but was really gay. Then I felt like a liar and a big mess. That made me feel inferior. Embrace your sexuality. Gay people live in amazing times in the United States. I am a 45 yo gay man, and 20 years ago I wanted to adopt and I was told it would be nearly impossible in my state. Today, my state openly allows gay adoption. Why are gay people becoming more widely accepted? Because, gay people came out and the rest of the community recognized that gay people are very productive members of society and should not be discriminated against for this difference. Gay people are unique in their sexuality, but are equally human.

Answer 3

Your brother is not worth to be called your brother. Your avatar shows a girl, but from your lines I think you must be a guy, am I right ?

I don't know how old you are and how old he is, but the molesting is an unforgivable thing. His respectless behaviour tells me he either feels guilt when he is confronted with you or he is such an unbelievable jerk that it is beyond any description. If it is guilt, seeing you makes him feel unpleasant and he reacts in this way.

I think you did well to put this question up and discuss your situation. Talking about it definitely helps and you may find people who share your feelings or have similar experiences.

Answer 4

Sugs, we all have death as our ultimate end, but in the meantime, you have to find a way to make the entire situation a positive one. You need to seek support from someone you trust and love (a friend, relative). Do not give up or give in to depression because just remember that somewhere, someone is thinking about you. Don't lose hope and seek help! Good luck with everything babe.

Answer 5

all good answers above...also you may want to seek out an older respectable gay or lesbian for friendship and support, Strait people have a great advantage, being raised by straight parents, we don't have gay parents (usually) so seek them out. As always have fun, don't be a tramp, and use protection. You are not only welcomed in the Gay Community but needed as well, one day you will teach someone new.

Answer 6

Always remember God loves you unconditional. Your brother has a problem and needs help! So what your Gay! their are a lot of people like that. don't let bad things hold you hostage in your mind set yourself free so you can be happy. Some people like to see others suffer, because they live a life full of lies and pain. Move on come out. There will be a lot of hard things in life we all have to face on day!!!

Answer 7

You have to work it out yourself.
Just remember this, God (whatever God you may worship) made you and he made you for a reason. We have nothing to be ashamed of, no matter what we are.
Now personal character, your behavior, etc. Thats on you.
If anybody doesn't like you because you are gay, thats their problem.
Some people think being gay is a choice. BS. You are born with it. I love exotic women, I would be lying to myself if I said otherwise.
Being gay is the "right" choice. That is the right choice for gay people.

Answer 8

What more can I add? Yes! Get the counseling. You are loved. Give your self the time and education you need to adapt and adjust. Read widely. Go to a gay lesbian center. Join a youth group. Read coming out stories.

I will put you in my prayers.

Answer 9

Honey, you need to seek a therapist to deal with the issues of sexual abuse. You have nothing to be ashamed of because you've done nothing wrong, my dear. Once you accept the fact that you're gay, then you can go on and be productive. Seek some counseling and take it one day at a time. Take this from your "fairy godmama". Be you, and take care, hon.

Answer 10

Talk to a counselor about the molestation first. It's most likely the source of your of self image problems.