im gonna try to put as much info as possible. so somehwere in april, i really like this girl. i even asked her out pretty stupidly. left a note and all. couple days later, shes in fl and leaves a text saying "she has too many thigns going on and she cant be with anyone righ tnow." now of course i was hurt but i didnt show it at all. i got better though throught my frosh year, but it just wasnt the same. we got really close again and i even began to like her. suddenly freakin today the worst possible thing happened. she just started dating htis other guy that she was really close too. and to think i had the chance? like i didnt care at first over the summer, but now i feel like crap that she didnt choose me and seh chose him. and this girl is like the first girl ive fell for this bad. shes amazing and its so tough saying for me to forget her. yea i made a promise awhile ago after she sent the txt, that if she goes out with someone else, i shouldnt give her a chance anymore. what do ido?
2006-08-08 05:44:59 · 23 answers · asked by some jersey kid 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
Hi Jersey,
Sorry to read about your situation. I can't tell you what to do; but, I can tell you what I would do. If I had strong feelings for this girl, I would tell her how I felt and then let her make a decision. It is possible that she went to the other guy because she had no idea how you felt.
If after you talk to her and she turns you down, at least you will know and won't continue wondering about what might or could have been. You should be able to then move on.
I hope everything works out well for you and you get the answer you want. If not though, hang in there and the right girl will come along. Before you talk to her (if you do) listen to the old Billy Joel song 'Tell Her About It'.
Good Luck!
2006-08-08 06:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by bc76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting way to upset over some chic that doesn't have the decency to tell you the truth about how she feels.
I know it's hard to get over your first crush, but you will. Give it a few and you will be back in school and there will be tons of girls to take her place in your affections. This year you won't be the babies of the school anymore, so there will be plenty of girls willing to give you a chance.
As much as you hurt right now, you have to get over her. She's not worth it. This is not the end of the world. There are worse things out there than a girl dating another guy.
Work on your own self esteem and confidence, take care of yourself in appearance and hygiene. Next time it might be you snubbing the girl.
2006-08-08 05:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus your energy on your school work. Make that and other things your priority. Set yourself a goal of accomplishing something you've wanted to do - besides land her as your girlfriend. I know it hurts sweetie, but there is a girl for you. You might not see her because you're so focused on this one. This girl you like might be the one, but maybe not right now. People are ever changing in personalities and even looks. If y'all "hooked up" now you might not last a week or a month. It may be meant for you to be with her later in life. You're young just live and enjoy the moment.
2006-08-08 05:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by pottersclay70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, personally, would have preferred a note to an e-mail. Yep, that's what I got. And, when I explained I didn't wanna date yet, he bugged me a bit more. But, anyways, that's over. I must commend you on your ability to back off for the time being.
You've fallen, and I can understand that it can be pretty hard to get up sometimes. But, hey, at least you've been moving. You can't fall down while you're standing still. And, unless you take the initiative to get up and move on (not totally forget her, but, just continue living life) you're gonna stay in the slump that you're in. Not trying to be harsh, but just trying to help out. Hope I succeeded to some extent.
2006-08-08 16:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by hiccup_snickup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's your first love, I promise you she won't be your last! Get over it, and get on with it. You'll find someone else! Chances are when you do, she'll get jealous and want you back. Then you have the chance to tell her to jump in a lake! Don't let her jerk you around like this anymore! The more you allow people to treat you that way, the more you'll get that. So have some self respect and move on. Good luck.
2006-08-08 05:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm Down! You are way over reacting. All you need 2 do is take afew deep breaths and be casual. After all there are more fish in the sea and after all u did 2 try 2 have a date with her, and then her dating that other guy... She does not deserve you 2 miss her! It is all just life!
2006-08-08 05:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by *Me* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't feel the same for you, the best thing for you to do is forget about what might've been. You can't beat yourself up over something out of your control. I know it's hard, but you have to move on with your life. To sit around and do nothing but pout about the situation, makes no sense. You have to press on and get out there and meet other people. She's not the ONLY girl you'll fall in love with or have strong feelings for in life. Life is trial and error, next time, you'll know to keep your heart out of it - to protect your feelings. Good luck. God Bless!
2006-08-08 05:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im guessing your young, maybe in your mid-late teens. Im 31 btw. Young women will continue to pull this shyt until they are almost 30 in my experience. You HAVE to have lots of self confidence when dating young and you cannot let them mess with you mind. Best thing to do is realize how stupid she is for not going for someone like you and forget about her. Also realize that the world is fking huge man and there are a TON of fish in the sea and there are plenty out there for the taking. Oh and last but not least dont get your heart all tied up with someone so quickly and easily. "guard your heart".
2006-08-08 05:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i know your really hurt right now but the best thing to do is forget about her because if you think of her it will hurt you even more.Go out hang with your friends and after awhile you just forget about her.Oh and you never know another can come along and maybe you'll have better luck with her.
2006-08-08 05:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by kitty-kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life.
Concentrate on yourself.
Be the best you can be.
She does not want you, move on and just be friends.
1/2 the worlds population is female.
2006-08-08 05:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by r_e_a_l_miles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋