Should I get over him or still have feelings for him?
2006-08-08 05:42:04 · 34 answers · asked by Niki G. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
when someone breaks ur heart its only natural to feel for the good or bad ...... so u willget over it in time but it will take time .
dont rush it
have fun !~!
2006-08-08 05:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it is normal to still have feeling for a guy even if he broke your heart. Just because you broke up doesn't mean everything you know about him (good things) vanish in one day. It will hurt, but they only way you will get over him sooner is to keep yourself occupied with other things so that you don't think about him. It will take time before the feelings will go away. I was with my ex for 3 years and he broke my heart. I am over him now, but it took some time. But it gets better, trust me.
2006-08-08 05:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by Diana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you will ever get over him and feelings cannot be switched off in one instance (even if he broke your heart).
But overtime the feelings will fade a little (not completely) and you will grow as a person and look at it as an experience. Take the postives and the negatives out of it and store it somewhere in your memories.
Its not bad to have feelings, we are human and thats what makes us human. I know you are not a cold person thats why you still have feelings and you should be glad of that!
I know exactly how you feel. You'll be fine trust me :)
Good luck
2006-08-08 05:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Pudge_Monsta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well move over that guy who broke your heart is not worth your tears. and your heart girl. I got heart broken and i still feel i will always love him..but you learn to move on and find something better. Leave that as the last page of your life you been threw and are ready move on with a new chapter.
2006-08-08 05:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is ok to still have feelings. I mean just because things ended "badly" doesn't mean that you can shut the feelings off.
It is ok to still have feelings, as long as they do not emotionally handicap you.
You still need to move forward in your life. I mean your heart wouldn't have been broken if you didn't have feelings for him.
Feelings, emotions, love are not like a light switch where you can turn it on and off (well at least for most).
It is ok to remember the good times, just don't over glamorize them. There was still the hurtful ending.
Enjoy the good parts of the relationship, the memories, but move on in your life too.
Good luck.
2006-08-08 05:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone breaks you heart, it is natural to continue to have feelings for them, are you still with this said fellow? or have you both moved on? Give yourself some time in either case, you will never entirely get over the hurt that he has caused, and yes if you are still together, you will always wonder if it will happen again, but the pain will lessen in time good luck i feel for you.
2006-08-08 05:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not bad at all its actually normal. my ex really hurt me badly and its been so long since our break up and i have moved on into a new relationship and I'm actually married but once in awhile i think about my ex and all the feeling for him come back. it was such a big event in my life and took up a almost four years. big things that happen in your life especially the ones that involve a big love are always going to remain in your thoughts. you can get over him but you'll never forget him. it is important to move on from him though, no girl deserves to have her heart broken and you should find someone to help pick up the pieces and glue your heart back together. good luck
2006-08-08 05:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by ~Saratini~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad to still have feelings for him. They aren't going to go away overnight just because the relationship is over. (If they did, you'd be hard pressed to convince me they were ever there.)
However, it is *VERY* bad to let those feelings get in the way of you continuing to live your life. If you start to date other boys but don't let yourself fall in love with them because you're still secretly convinced that your ex will come crawling back, that's bad. If you go for months hating and wanting to kill all males of the species because this one did you wrong, that's bad. If you get into a new relationship and spend the whole time convinced that he's going to up and leave you for no reason, that's bad - and that one's particularly bad because odds are you will unconsciously start doing things to actually help speed that along!
So yes, have your feelings for him, and mourn the end of the relationship. But...how does the phrase go? Cry a river, then build a bridge and get over it. =)
2006-08-08 05:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey, it's natural. Those feelings will dissipate with TIME. Just love yourself more than anyone (except God), because your feelings should matter the most to you...noone can change the way you feel but yourself. You need to hurry up and tell yourself that you're over him (cause you are), there's no future for you, so you have to press on with life. The sooner you do this, the better you will feel. Good luck in love and life!
2006-08-08 05:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to get over him but you still may have feelings for this guy. You should try to find someone else you like and that may help cause you feeling will just fade for that other guy. So you just need to get over it, it is all in the past now.
2006-08-08 05:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Casey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he broke your heart, I would either try to fix things or just move on. Moving on would probably be best for you in the long run because you will find something better. But you can't force yourself to not care about someone and you can't lie to yourself about what YOU really want. Best of luck to you with whatever you end up doing.
2006-08-08 05:47:03 · answer #11 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋