I am working on a book about a guy who is trying to have sex with his wife after a long drought and goes through all these hoops but nothing prevails. I have a turning moment where he is talking with a stay at home dad who explains to him what is really going on and it is not really the physical act of sex he desires but the real thing behind the sex. What would you say that real reason behind sex is? Intensified closeness? Connection between husband and wife? Time where you are husband and wife, not mom and dad? Do you get what I am going for here?
2006-08-08 05:34:11 · 14 answers · asked by butnozzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really love the question.My wife and I have been married for 25 years and have two grown daughters and still have as much sex as ever. The answer is "Everyone needs that non-verbal intimate communication that says you are a part of something, you have a place in life and all is well". I think that this intimate event is the single biggest reason for marriages to last or to end in divorce. We all need this level of communion and communication.
2006-08-08 05:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by chuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are physical creatures that rely on sex and masterbation as a way to balance out their minds. Men are wired in their brains by spatial orientation and woman emotionally. God/Whoever you believed in created men for this purpose.
Why is sex so important? Because, in order for a woman to be loved by a man sexual duties must be brought out. Otherwise, this man will resent her, treat her badly and cheat. It is the natural order of a mans human nature.
What can you do? It's simple. If you want to feel closer, or at least make sure hes satisfied and doesn't feel resented or unloved you work out the favor system. I give my love oral sex for something I want him to do. A favor system gets rid of "cheating" possibilities and decreases a womans nagging down tremendously.
2006-08-08 12:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by Poestalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the time where you are husband and wife. You are trying to relive where you were many years ago when you were daitng and the spark was brand new and you just wanted eachother non stop at every waking moment and now that you have children you cant just drop everything and go at it. its kinda like you want to still feel young and feel able to be sexual whenever you want.
2006-08-08 12:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by iWorkonComputers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of the time, at least for me, i dont want to have sex because i dont want anymore children... and well... sex leads to more children.
but the real reason (to me and my partner) is that intimate closeness... that feeling you have with no one else. Just feeling each other closer then ever. It also is a great time ti relieve tension from the day. Its time with your husband, and your adults, not mommy or daddy, not anything but but.
2006-08-08 12:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making the ones you love feel good by giving them pleasure. Me and my husband are common law married and sex to us is a way of showing each other appreciation for what the other does and brings to this marriage by making each other feel good.
2006-08-08 12:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I've been married 25 years and sex in marriage is about sex - feeling young and desirous and playful even if your boobs are sagging and he's got a pot belly. it's about being so comfortable with your spouse you can tell him he is sucking the wrong area and it won't put him off - it's about doing it even if you haven't shaved your arm pits it's about comfort zone
It's about being something other than father to the kids and provider for the family - it's about being selfish with your needs and being able to literally saying screw em all
2006-08-08 12:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by prettymama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
real reason behind sex is for the husband and wife to be come one flesh.
2006-08-08 12:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex has much more importance than just physical contact sp when it comes to husband n wife.after mother wife is 2nd female when a guy feels secure with.so to drop out al tensions,to feel someone is there for them they need it badly.n its good to feel so.
2006-08-08 12:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by silentlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, those are the obvious things. But, I also appreciate the way doggie style works the kinks out of my lower back. Woof
2006-08-08 12:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be possession? I notice that my husband wants sex when he feels horny, but also when he feels insecure...
2006-08-08 13:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Empea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋